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Embracing Growth as a High-Masking Autistic Woman

Outgrowing Your Comfort Zone: Embracing Growth as a High-Masking Autistic Woman

Initially, I needed to get this out quickly, so it was an audio. This is the transcript of that audio. Sometimes, I get caught up in the visuals and feel like I have to get myself ready and all that before I do an audio or video. But this message is for the Collective today.

Good morning. I needed to get this out, and the only thing I could do was an audio message because sometimes I get caught up in the visuals and feel like I have to get myself ready and all that before I do an audio or video. But this message is for the Collective today.

What I hear God and Spirit telling the Collective, my Collective, the Collective assigned to me, is you are enough, and you are actually more than enough. The container that you have been attempting to put yourself in is not big enough to hold you, to hold your greatness, because it doesn't have the capacity. No matter how much you want it to grow and expand to meet your level of greatness as you grow, expand, and evolve, it's smothering you.

It's actually smothering you to death. I imagine an animal. I think about my son's bearded dragon and how when we first got her, she was small. She was a baby. The tank that she was in was sufficient. It was sufficient. As she started to grow, we were at the pet store one day, and the person at the pet store said, "Make sure you change your tank out as she grows." In my mind, I'm like, there's no way she's going to outgrow that tank. That tank was pretty big to me. It was about a five, maybe ten-gallon tank, but she was so tiny.

They explained, it's not just about the mass that the bearded dragon takes up; it's about the energy in the tank and the body of the bearded dragon. If it senses that it's in a tank smaller than its current size, it will stifle its growth. So, even though the baby iguana may be in a ten-gallon tank right now, it is designed to eventually, at its maturation, be in a hundred-gallon tank.
That's the capacity that the container needs to hold when this iguana reaches its full growth. However, because it is still stuck in this ten-gallon tank, even though it's small, its receptors will sense the limitation and it won't grow. It won't grow beyond the capacity of the tank that they're currently in.

You don't wait until it's bursting at the seams to get it a new container. As it grows and develops, you put it in new containers because this activates the growth. It activates the growth.
If the baby iguana is ten inches long, and a ten-gallon tank is forty to fifty inches long, when it reaches about twenty to twenty-five inches, it will stop growing because it senses the limitation.
So, what I'm saying is, the container that you have been keeping yourself in—you outgrew it a long time ago. But because you were so comfortable in it, you did not realize that you were no longer growing. When you looked around, you still saw room in your tank, not realizing that this was the only size you would ever be. You have reached your max and until you get out of that container, you will never grow. And if you stay in that container too long, the results could be detrimental.

I don't know who exactly this is for. I know it's for the Collective, but it's a very specific segment of the Collective that has been lulled to sleep in the comfort of their container, not realizing that you stopped growing. You stopped expanding because you were too afraid to get a new container. That's why your life may feel a little disjointed right now.
You may feel in need of alignment with who you are and how you show up in the world. Well, that's why—you need a new container. Whether that container is a relationship, personal or professional, you need to examine it.

You need to do the work. I'm just sending you messages for you to go and do further examination and say, "Where is this coming from? What is this about? Are there areas in my life where I have poured out parts of myself to stay in this container? Or have I refused to expand or do something because my container is already a little too tight, too cramped?"

If you need clarity on that, or want to dive deeper into that, I'm open to having personal sessions, personal one-on-one sessions, a very limited number. This is the work that God has called me to do, but it's only for a sliver of the population within the Collective. I have carved out space on my calendar for a very limited number of personal one-on-ones, clarity one-on-ones.

Take care. If this resonates, let's explore it further together.

That's in...autistic therapist out! ✌🏿
Dee


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It’s ya, girl Dee, bringing you some sparkle, shine, and a fierce reminder that being neurodivergent and feminine (NeuroFem) in these entrepreneurial streets is a power move, not a compromise. I’m here to help you redefine what it means to show up boldly and unapologetically in a world that wasn’t built with us in mind. 

My secret sauce? A wild blend of a sailor’s discipline, a counselor’s empathy, a strategist’s insight, and a neurodivergent Gemini’s creative chaos—all fueled by my deep passion for helping neurodiverse women reclaim their brilliance.

I know what it feels like to be told to fit into a box that’s too small, to shrink yourself just to survive in a world that doesn’t get you. For years, I played by the status quo—masking my truth, hustling in silence, and feeling like I had to be “normal” to succeed. But I learned that conforming was never the answer; embracing my neurodivergence and owning my story was the real key to freedom. 

Now, I help my clients do the same: heal those neurotypical wounds, reclaim their identities, and build brands that reflect their true, untamed selves.

Being a mom to neurodivergent boys taught me that success isn’t about following someone else’s blueprint—it’s about creating your own. I’ve seen the power of choosing your own path and building a brand that fits your life, your brain, and your values. Resilience, patience, and celebrating the quirks that make us extraordinary—these are the lessons that shape my “Get Clear” methodology, guiding my clients to see the beauty in their differences and turn them into their greatest strengths.

My goal? It’s simple: I’m here to make sure your business doesn’t just succeed—it becomes a living, breathing representation of who you are. This is about more than profit; it’s about legacy, identity, and embracing your truth. 

Together, we’re not just building brands; we’re rewriting narratives, shattering norms, and co-creating epic sh!t that makes your mark on the world. So, let’s get started on this journey to “Brand Your Brilliance” and build a brand that’s as strong, authentic, and legendary as you are!

With love and relentless support,
Develda, Your Authentically Autistic Brand Therapist

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