Change can be painful, but it is not a sign to shrink back and isolate. It may be God’s invitation to holy pruning, deeper trust, and new growth through connection and support.

Do you ever feel like your spouse just doesn't understand you? Or find yourself walking away from what should have been an enjoyable conversation only to discover it spiraled into an argument? Do you ever ask yourself – What just happened here?! If you've been married for any length of time, you've likely experienced all of these situations.

Most arguments begin when someone doesn't feel listened to, heard, understood, or cared for. When we feel understood, we tend to walk away from conversations feeling satisfied and connected. Conversely, when we don't feel understood, we tend to feel frustrated and either repeat what we said—perhaps slightly differently—or say it louder. Neither approach usually goes very well.

One of the most important things you can do in a conversation to instantly create connection is VALIDATION. Validation doesn't necessarily mean agreement. Rather, it means letting the other person know that you understand where they're coming from and leaving them feeling understood, valued, and important. People often think they are validating the other person; however, if you're using the word "but" or offering your "better idea," it's probably not validation. True validation sounds like: "You make a good point," "You make sense," "I get where you're coming from," or "That's interesting – thanks for giving me another perspective to consider."

So, the next time you're in a conversation, practice the art of validation. It may be just what your relationship needs. I challenge you not just to ponder these ideas, but to act on them. Ask yourself: What will YOU do for love?

A beautiful young woman was listening to someone share something deeply personal and thought to herself, "Those are inside thoughts".  Inside thoughts are those thoughts that are sacred and only meant to be shared with someone who is trusted.  As women, we have many inside thoughts and rarely are there safe places to reveal these thoughts.  Scripture tells us to not throw our pearls to the swine.  My hope is to provide a platform for women to enter into those vulnerable spaces where their thoughts, dreams, desires and fears can be held with love, acceptance and sensitivity  for these are the seeds from where greatness can take root and seedlings can bloom.  If you are ready to take the next step toward growing into the best version of who God has called you to be, reach out and see what's possible.  You're transformation is just a phone call away.  I'm looking forward to meeting you.