So, what is Spiritual Right Action?

In The Four Sacred Secrets, Spiritual Right Action “is performed when we’re no

longer desperately trying to control the flow of life but, instead, are responding to

life as it arises from a powerful state of consciousness.”

That, in and of itself, is a powerful spiritual practice.

Speaking for myself, the real question becomes: Can I give up my doubts, my

fears, my monkey mind, and step into the absolute knowingness that I am always

connected to that which created all, is all, sees all, and knows all?

I’m good at this when life is going well. But when I’m thrown a curveball, I

sometimes forget. I want to start controlling people, places, and things — because

in that moment, I evidently think I know more than, as Ernest Holmes so lovingly

called it, The Thing Itself.

Recently, as many of you know, our bank account was hacked. By the time I

caught it, the hackers had taken over $7,000.

I’ll be honest — I got caught up in the fear, the anger, and the guilt. Yes, guilt.

Because as smart as I like to think I am about scammers and hackers, I had let

them into my account.

It took three long days and a mountain of frustration to finally get fraud tickets

issued with my bank. Once that happened, I went from feeling like a victim to just

feeling… numb.

On the fourth day, I was pulled out of my funk by an amazing community of

people whose energy helped lift me. Then, on the fifth day, I wrote a letter to God.

I said:

“I know my money that was removed from my account is put back easily and

effortlessly, and it is done quickly.”

I dissolved my inner conflict and let it go.

On day six, all the money was returned to our account.

What I realized — finally — was that not only had the hackers stolen our money, I

had let them steal my peace of mind. I had let them pull me away from my faith

and fill me with doubt, fear, and self-recrimination.

The truth is, my emotions and my responses to what life throws at me are my

responsibility.

I’m not suggesting we avoid our emotions. I’m suggesting we become acutely

aware of them — and then consciously decide whether we’re willing to change how

we feel about something.

Here are the steps I use to move through stuck emotions and return to the

knowingness of my innate perfection:

* I let myself feel what I feel. I don’t cover it up or mask it. My human self

  is allowed to express its hurt and pain. But I don’t build a house there and

  hang pictures on the wall, becoming a permanent victim of the experience.

* When I’m ready, I choose to heal the feeling. Holding on to emotions

  that don’t serve me keeps me out of the present moment — and can

  eventually manifest physically.

* I journal. Getting the story out of my head and onto paper gives it shape

  and space, rather than letting it run on an endless loop inside me.

* I reach out for support. Sometimes that means a therapist, sometimes a

  prayer practitioner, sometimes a trusted friend.

* I talk to God. I may write a letter or simply speak out loud, but I always

  bring it to that Higher Intelligence.

* I let it go. This can be the hardest part. And yet, at some point, I must

  decide: Is my happiness worth more than staying stuck? So far, the answer

  has always been YES.

We can’t create — or be truly creative — when we’re in a state of inner conflict.

Finding our Sense of Self isn’t just a gift we give ourselves (though that is reason

enough). It’s also a gift to the people around us. Our energy matters. The

vibration we put into the world makes a difference.

So I ask you:

How are you in relationships?

I know, that might sound like an odd question — but really, how we show up in our relationships says a lot about how we’re showing up in our relationship with the Divine.

Ernest Holmes once said, “Everything we see—plants, animals, humans, every visible thing—is a manifestation of God, differing only in degree. And every manifestation contains, in essence, the whole, just as one drop of ocean water holds the same essence as the entire sea.”

If I believe that’s true — and I do — then everything and everyone I’m in relationship with (including myself) is the Divine in form.

I tend to see my life through two lenses.

The first lens is from the time when I didn’t know I was connected to anything greater — the years filled with pain, emotional and physical abuse, and a lot of numbing through alcohol and drugs.

The second lens began when I discovered The Science of Mind teachings through Religious Science (now Centers for Spiritual Living). That’s when I found sobriety and started to actually feel my connection with everything around me.

Before that awakening, my relationships — with others and with myself — were rooted in self-doubt, fear, dislike (sometimes even hatred), and a deep sense of not belonging. I didn’t like myself, so I attracted partners who reinforced that image. I didn’t respect myself, so I didn’t get much respect in return. And when I finally walked away, I’d find someone new who mirrored the same story right back to me.

Fast forward — I’ve now been with my husband for 22 years, married for 19. Before him, my relationships rarely lasted more than eight years. I used to joke that my longest relationships were with my dogs.

Back then, I lived in a constant state of hurt, judgment, and avoidance. All relationships start with promise (otherwise, why start them at all?). But once the “honeymoon” fades, those little comments, gestures, and annoyances start to sting. And since most of us were never taught how to actually talk about our hurts, we bury them.

And you know what buried hurts become? Mountains. Because molehills don’t stay small forever. Once we start judging or labeling our partner, it’s not long before we start wondering why we’re even in the relationship at all — forgetting that this is the same person we were once crazy about.

So how did I move from abusive, toxic relationships to a marriage built on love, respect, and mutual cherishing?

First, I had to find myself.

No one on this planet — soulmate or otherwise — can complete you. You have to complete yourself. You have to love yourself so fully that anyone who comes into your life is simply the icing on your cake.

If you expect someone to fill your empty spaces, you’re setting yourself (and them) up for disappointment. No one can live up to unspoken expectations — especially the ones we don’t even realize we have.

Once you’ve found yourself and meet someone who sparks your interest, be honest. Be open. Be vulnerable. It’s not easy, but when you show up authentically from the start, there are no surprises later. And if your truth scares someone away, they weren’t your person.

Don’t shrink yourself to fit into a relationship. You’ll only resent it later — and trust me, if you get married, divorce isn’t cheap (financially or emotionally).

And maybe most importantly: don’t project your emotions onto your partner — or anyone else. Learn to pause and ask yourself, What’s really going on here? Then do the inner work to move through it. Because when you do, you’ll find yourself living from a place of peace, love, and authentic connection — a true reflection of the Divine within you.

And for those of you who’ve already figured this out — thank you for lighting the way. I’m beyond grateful to finally be living what I used to only hope for: a relationship built on love, honesty, and laughter.

In a world full of external distractions and easy excuses, the true path to personal transformation often lies hidden within, waiting to be uncovered. By shifting our focus inward, we can discover the profound power of our own responses, turning blame into empowerment and stagnation into growth. This deeper spiritual exploration challenges us to confront our inner truths, fostering a sense of responsibility that unlocks new levels of freedom and possibility. Imagine reclaiming your creative energy from the shadows of complaint and reaction, stepping into a life of conscious choice and authentic connection. Yet, this journey requires courage and honesty, revealing layers of self-awareness that can reshape how we navigate challenges. Dive deeper into this inviting practice and see how embracing your inner world can lead to lasting change, but only if you're ready to take the first step.

I know the power, the presence, the One Life that is God is me. It is over me, around me, through me, as me. There is no separation there is only One. This one is Love, therefore I am loving and I am loved. All God is, I AM.

I speak my word now knowing this connection, this unconditional love; it has always been, it will always be and it is here with me now. I don't have to seek which already exists, I just need to know. When I know this Divine Presence within, I know and see God all around me. This knowing brightens my day and lightens my load. When I truly know God, I know Love.

I give thanks for this deep connection and knowing to the One Power, the One Presence, the One Mind, the One Heart, the One Life, God as it seeks its manifestation through me and all things everywhere.

I release these words into the Law knowing as it is spoken it is done. I let go, I let God and So It Is.