Guest Post

You Control the Climate in Your Home


As we speak, we are finally getting a winter storm coming to our home in the bush in Canada. We have had an unseasonably warm fall but finally, the rain and  snow are moving in. Noooo!

But on the bright side, the wood is all piled up for the winter. The leaves are all raked up and the woodstove is going nicely.  As Canadians, we pride ourselves on being ready for the harsh, uncontrollable weather of our Northern country but what if I told you there is a kind of climate we can control?

When I was training to be a teacher, one of my supervisors, tried to instill in us a very important point: we control the climate in the classroom. What she meant was that educators have the ability to set the tone and the mood within our little room in the school. Would our classroom be a place of peace or a place of bullying? As the adult in the room, we are the leaders that the students follow, as an example.

The same thing goes for our homes and our marriages. We set the climate in our home by our attitude, our actions and our words.  If we are in a stepfamily, we are influenced by the other home but we still get to set the thermostat in our homes.
How’s the climate in your part of the world? Has winter come  yet? But even more importantly, how is the climate in your home? Do you believe that you set the thermostat? Let me know in the comments below.
Recent Guest Post and Podcast
This post was an adaptation of recent guest post I did for Stephanie Stapes at Your Life Unlimited. I was so happy to be on her show to talk about the issue of second marriages and how many people are in this situation.  If you would like to read this post, check it out here.

If you would like to listen to my recent radio interview with Stephanie, listen in on this podcast. 

To read my book, “Second Marriage: An Insider’s Guide to Hope, Healing & Love, check it out on [easyazon_link identifier=”B071V9DXR5″ locale=”US” tag=”recommended0cb-20″]Amazon here.[/easyazon_link]


Meet Sharilee Swaity

Sharilee Swaity is a Christian relationship coach with a background in teaching and marketing. This graduate of the Relationship Coaching Institute is passionate about helping women and couples find and keep love after losing a long-term relationship through divorce, widowhood, or relationship breakdown. She works with couples helping them overcome conflict and find love with their spouse. 

Sharilee's passion for helping with relationships was born from her own painful life journey. Growing up witnessing abuse started her on the journey to looking for love in all the wrong places. By age 22, she was already married and divorced. When she finally remarried years later, it looked like she was headed for another divorce, but with the help of counselling and God's wisdom, they turned their second marriage around. 

Sharilee is the author of five books, including Happily Ever After Again: Hope, Healing, and Love for Second Marriages and 16 Gifts from a Stepmom: Encouragement for the Blended Family Journey.   When she's not coaching, writing, or teaching, she loves going for walks with her husband in the forest where they live or spending time in their permaculture-style garden. 

Sharilee loves to experience the city once in a while but nowadays spends most of her time hidden away at their homestead home.  She is a crunchy conservative with a passion for chai tea, sunsets, and trees. She loves learning, research and writing. Clck here to book a coaching call with her today. 
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