Are you ready to be unstoppable? To live again when it seems like your dreams have already died?
Many people find themselves in unhealthy, unproductive cycles. They continue circling the same issue--mountain--that threatens to make them feel helpless, overwhelmed, and afraid. The key to breaking the cycle, is to renegotiate your deal. Bad deals are rooted in beliefs that do not serve you. They are lies--imaginary thieves--that live only on the power of your AGREEMENT. When you identify the lie, break your deal with the lie, and then design a NEW DEAL with TRUTH, you build muscle--faith--that gives you the courage to move mountains out of your way.
And unfortunately, when we are plagued by wounds that took root in our hearts (beliefs) as children, we have to build muscle through faith in the truth in order to break out of the limits left behind by caregivers who often carried the same brokeness in their own belief system. For too many, the broken, fearful and limited beliefs of the caregiver were conditioned, or programmed into young children who did not know how far that damage would travel along with them into adulthood. Therefore, the process of renegotiating the bad deals from a wounded past produces faith in hope for this present moment.
Faith (agreement) comes by hearing (reminders). That is why it is so important for you to take some next steps. And you probably already know this, but for me, those steps began with developing an intimate understanding of the Father's heart for ME.
So that is why I want to share a beautiful insight I found in the scriptures. I invite you to join me for a story that unfolds in Mathew (9:18-26), Mark (5:21-43), and Luke (8:40-46).
This is the story of the Father, his heart, and his offer to you. How do I know?
The story begins with a religious leader, named Jairus. His daughter was very ill. He was a human father who represents the natural God-given affection towards his child: a desire for his child to be whole.
And just in case this message to us was not clear, Heaven interrupted the episode with an ad. You see, in the middle of going to carry out the will of a human father, Jesus was stopped in his tracks. The "woman with the issue of blood" made contact. She AGREED with her Heavenly Father's will that she be whole, healed, and in peace.
How do we know this?
Not only was she healed when she accomplished her agreement with a touch. Jesus stopped in the middle of a crowd to confirm the Heavenly Father's acceptance of agreement with her: Daughter, be in peace. Your faith (agreement) has healed you.
As though that was not enough to make you hop out your chair and shout Halleluyah, the drama continued to unfold. Jesus resumed his journey to the 12 year old girl--on behalf of her parents--to bring her back from the dead.
Because our Heavenly Father can bring life into any situation we already gave up on.
The old woman who was bleeding spent everything she had...
Doctors could not fix her problem...
But agreeing with the king of all kings and His OFFER OF PEACE AND HEALING was when things finally and dramatically changed in her life.
And for the young girl...
Her Father had not given up on her.
And if your biological father hasn't pulled his weight for a miracle on your behalf...
These passages present indisputable evidence that our Heavenly Father's agreement is the only thing you need for the change you have been searching for, crying for, and even dying for.
Don't sleep on this offer.
It is the Father's heart.
He made you to be in peace.
He designed you to be whole.
And for too many of us...
Raggedy parenting, misfortune, and ignorance created circumstances that hid this truth from us.
But if you will ONLY AGREE with what your Father in Heaven says about you...
Your life is only just beginning.
I love you!
Heavenly Father,
Thank you for another day with breath in my body.
Thank you for the blood flowing through my veins.
Thank you for your new mercies to share the gift of this day with me.
I take courage in this day because I know that you cannot fail me.
And that is why I am asking you for the bread that will feed my soul.
I have been heavy in my heart
I have been exhausted in my soul
I have been disappointed by people time after time again
And when I feel disconnected in my marriage...
When the person who is supposed to be closest to me is the furthest from me,
It breaks my heart.
I am bringing the shattered pieces of my heart to you today.
Because I know you care.
You know the number of hairs I have on my body.
You know my innermost thoughts...
My dreams, and my fears.
And one of those fears has been facing life with a broken heart.
I cannot bear it.
And that is why I am crying out to you today.
Because you promised that you heal the brokenhearted
You said that you care about the things that burden me
And even now, while things seem to be all wrong in my marriage...
I trust that you are the one who will use the pain that we are both facing
To turn all of the shattered and broken glass of our feelings
Into a beautiful story of triumph over the odds.
I pray that you help me to see what I need to learn from this pain
Teach me to appreciate the purpose in all of this.
And I ask you to fill me with your peace.
The type of peace that does not focus on the tiny details of the circumstances.
But the type of peace that commands the winds.
Because I know that is how you want me to use this pain.
You want me to create my own experience of this life.
Where I am always the victorious, and never the victim.
Father, I also ask for your joy.
Because your joy gives me strength to keep moving forward.
To keep choosing to love, even when love hurts.
To find laughter and appreciation in the places that I have overlooked.
To allow the laughter of life to be the medicine I need as you strengthen my heart.
Thank you for being with me.
At times, marriage feels so lonely.
Which makes no sense to me.
But I take comfort in knowing that I am never alone.
And even when my spouse does not understand me.
Or when they do not seem to care at all about the way I am suffering right now.
I can always trust you to always be true.
I can trust you to always be love.
Even when I am behaving in an unlovable way.
Or when my spouse is pushing my patience to the fullest of my limits.
I can rest and know that it is not by my own strength, but by yours that I heal.
Thank you for every moment of broken-ness in my life.
So that I may witness the power of your healing touch.
And that I may take comfort in your loving embrace.
As you create a new heart for me.
Heavenly Father,
I bless you for the gift of life.
Thank you for the mercy you have shown me--
For the opportunity to experience beauty,
And to be a living expression of your enduring love.
I even thank you for the storm that is raging around me right now.
I thank you that you are in the center of this storm with me.
And that I, within your loving embrace, am in the eye of the storm.
Where there is peace, calm, and tranquility as the winds and rain rage all around me.
I set my focus on you right now.
Because in you there is fullness of joy.
And peace that is higher than my circumstances.
Thank you for never leaving me.
Thank you for never turning your back on me.
Thank you for giving me this moment to reach you.
Thank you for hearing me when I cry out to you.
And for every tear I cry...
I thank you for never taking them for granted.
And for using them for my healing, and never to harm me.
Today, I trust you with the shattered places of my heart--
Knowing that your love and kindness will put every piece back together.
And with this gift you make me better.
Yes--even in the midst of this storm.
It will not break me, but strengthen me.
It will not blow me away, but cleanse me.
May it be so according to your purpose for my life.
You are my storm shelter.
And I will continue to rest here with you.
Until the storm passes.
I pray these things in your name of authority here on earth and in the unseen realm of the spirit- Yahusha ha Mashiac (Jesus, the Anointed King).
Halleluyah.
The principle of entropy indicates that disorder in any system will naturally increase over time if left unattended, and this concept can be applied to marriage. Without intentional effort to nurture the relationship, a marriage will inevitably deteriorate. Therefore, it's crucial to consistently evaluate and address areas where neglect has crept into our thoughts, words, or actions.
By recognizing and tackling these areas of neglect, we create pathways for intentional growth and improvement in our marriages. This transformation begins with the individual, fostering habits of intentionality within oneself, which then naturally extend to how we interact with our spouses. The practice of intentionality not only enhances personal growth but also strengthens the marital bond, making the relationship more enjoyable and fulfilling.
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