Every once in a while, I get an email from The Daily Wellness with great simple tips to improve wellness. I recently received one that I really resonated with. It made me feel like I’m not crazy, or alone. As I was reading it, I was thinking, “You mean it’s not just me?! Maybe I’m not actually “doing social situations” wrong!?”
I’m thinking that you might resonate with it, too, and benefit from the suggestions, so I am sharing their email with you here. Enjoy!
The Question: “Why do I get so emotionally drained after hanging out with people, even people I like?”...
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May 2025 has been a very different month for me.
In February, I received an email about an in-person EFT course on May 2-4 that sounded really interesting and I decided I was going to go. Then I saw that it was in Gold Coast, Australia. “Well,” I thought, “I guess I’m not going.”
But then I thought, “Why not? What are my reasons?”
Honestly, I didn’t really have very good reasons. They were: “it’s outside my comfort zone” and “it’s just not what I do”. Staying in my comfort zone and doing what I always do is safe.
There is nothing inherently “wrong” with staying in your comfort zone and doing what you always do. Actually, it is important to feel safe. When we feel safe, our nervous system calms down and balances and our stress decreases. When we go outside the comfort zone - by trying something we haven’t done before or haven’t mastered - it feels unsafe. Without effective stress management skills, our stress level can become unmanageable and our only way to deal with stress is to retreat back into our comfort zone.
When you have the tools to effectively manage stress, you can stay outside your comfort zone while regulating your nervous system so you feel safe and your zone of comfort expands.
A while back, I heard someone say...
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