Season 2 - Episode 3: Being Strategic with Parenting Plans

Do you think creating a parenting plan is an easy, straightforward process? Or that even having one is an absolute MUST? Well, think again.

Discover how overly lengthy and generic parenting plans can do more harm than good, especially in high-conflict situations, in this week's discussion.

This episode dives into the saturated and often oversimplified world of parenting plans in Family Court. Join me, Tracey Bee, as I break down the complexities of crafting a helfpul plan that genuinely minimizes future conflicts and supports the best interests of your child. Learn why personalized strategies far outweigh "one-size-fits-all" solutions and how strategic planning can prevent courtroom battles.

What You'll Learn: 
  • The misconception that parenting plans should be extensive and uniform. Why high-conflict cases should avoid lengthy, reformatted parenting plans to minimize issues and non-compliance. 
  • The importance of strategizing for the long term, beyond just resolving immediate conflicts. Key elements every parenting plan should address, including custody arrangements, visitation schedules, and communication rules and how they should be tailored for each family member.
  • The pitfalls of using generic templates and the need for personalization based on unique family dynamics. The role of mediators, mental health professionals, and other experts in drafting effective parenting plans and how they have different agendas.
  • Why judicial input is essential in finalizing parenting plans to avoid future court interventions. How certain clauses like morality and right of first refusal can complicate enforcement and cause unnecessry controversy. *Actionable advice on revising parenting plans as children grow and their needs change.
Parenting plans are far more than just a legal document—they're a blueprint for co-parenting effectively and should be well thought out and prepared. This episode sheds light on why a collaborative approach and professional assistance are crucial for creating am effective parenting plan. 

📚 Timestamped overview

00:00 Customized parenting plans need discussion and attorney.
03:20 Judges often intervene in parenting plans disputes.
08:41 Proposed parenting plans exist, professional assistance recommended.
09:57 Seek professional advice when finalizing parenting plans.
13:26 High-conflict co-parenting often leads to court disputes.
19:26 Parenting plans covers various schedules, guidelines, and responsibilities.
24:38 Parenting plan provisions and conflicts unenforceable by judges.
28:26 Right of First refusal: notify co-parent before others to take of the child.
31:10 Avoid frequent court visits for parenting plan violations.
35:37 Revisit parenting plans as children develop and grow.
38:59 Parent coordinator offering comprehensive parenting plan services.
41:27 Family law professionals should support co-parenting efforts.

Family Court can be traumatic! And trying to handle your case on your own can be even more catastrophic.  There are twists & turns at every stage that you need to be aware of and to prepare for.  Having a solid Gameplan and someone to help you execute it effectively can make all the difference in the Universe (not just the world.)  We know all about the bias, corruption, and dysfunction being handed out by the system. We just want you to have a fighting chance by leveling the playing field.

Need help in handling your Family Court case on your own?
We have services that are specifically geared toward helping self-represented litigants like you understand the common mistakes that lead to the most disappointing outcomes. 

To find out more about our services and to stay informed of our FREE workshops by joining our email & visit us at www.TheDivorceSolutionist.com.



Season 2 - Episode 2: Choosing to File Contempt in Family Court

Think you know how Family Courts operate when it comes to enforcing, punishing or even taking action when there is uncooperation between the parties? Think again. In this eye-opening episode, I pull back the curtain to reveal the strategic nuances and intricate challenges that litigants face when navigating family court, especially when dealing with Contempt motions. Whether you're self-represented or working with an attorney, my goal is to equip you with practical, insightful strategies to better prepare for situations such as violations of court order.

What You'll Learn:
  • Why labeling something as "contempt" can backfire and learn the appropriate legal language to use instead.
  • How specifying realistic and proportionate consequences for violations can influence the outcome of your case.
  • To understand why judges often avoid micromanaging parental decisions and the potential pitfalls of frequent motion filings.
  • Why the adage "Just because you could doesn't mean you should" is crucial in family court filings.
  • To unearth smarter ways to document minor infractions without constantly filing motions or involving the police.
  • To pinpoint when it's truly necessary to file for contempt and when to let minor issues slide for the sake of your case.
  • To set realistic expectations and gain insights into setting realistic expectations and the importance of understanding the complexities of the family court system.
  • To leverage Professional Help by discovering the roles of parenting coaches, coordinators, and therapists for managing co-parenting conflicts outside of court.
  • Personal Anecdotes: Listen to a relatable story about pre-K decisions and how they can unexpectedly impact your case, even when intentions are good.
This episode is packed with actionable advice designed to help you learn to make more informed decisions when it comes to reacting to the other party’s actions. Avoid common pitfalls, approach your case with a clear strategy, and ensure you’re fully prepared for the complexities ahead.

📚 Timestamped overview
00:00 Don't make legal conclusions; that's the judge's role.
06:53 No contempt if criteria aren't clearly met.
08:00 Decide if court action is really worthwhile.
14:10 Stop repeating actions expecting different results.
15:31 Choose contempt cases wisely; avoid judge annoyance.
17:56 Violating probation shows contempt, unlike parenting agreements.
23:44 Seek harsher judgments; filings may impact trial.
27:00 Judge ordered child stays with available parent.
30:41 Specify consequences for violating parenting plans carefully.
34:14 Schedule session for consent assistance with documents.
35:28 "Just because you can doesn't mean should."

Family Court can be traumatic! And trying to handle your case on your own can be even more catastrophic.  There are twists & turns at every stage that you need to be aware of and to prepare for.  Having a solid Gameplan and someone to help you execute it effectively can make all the difference in the Universe (not just the world.)  We know all about the bias, corruption, and dysfunction being handed out by the system. We just want you to have a fighting chance by leveling the playing field.

Need help in handling your Family Court case on your own?

We have services that are specifically geared toward helping self-represented litigants like you understand the common mistakes that lead to the most disappointing outcomes. 

To find out more about our services and to stay informed of our FREE workshops by joining our email & visit us at www.TheDivorceSolutionist.com.


 
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