The Delay Wasn’t Denial — Owning the Pain of Waiting
Day 2: The Delay Wasn’t Denial — Owning the Pain of Waiting
 
Scripture Focus:
“This vision is for a future time. It describes the end, and it will be fulfilled.
If it seems slow in coming, wait patiently, for it will surely take place. It will not be delayed.”
— Habakkuk 2:3 (NLT)
The Weight of the Wait
 
Juneteenth exists because freedom was delayed.
The Emancipation Proclamation was signed on January 1, 1863 — but the last enslaved men, women, and children in Galveston, Texas wouldn’t hear the news until June 19, 1865 — two and a half years later.
 
That means they woke up every day, worked under the crack of a whip, watched their families suffer, and endured unspeakable abuse — not knowing they were already free.
 
Let that sink in.
 
They were legally free. But still living as if they weren’t.
 
Now, tell me this doesn’t sound familiar…
 
You’ve cried out to God.
You’ve fasted. You’ve prayed. You’ve done everything “right.”
You’ve tried to stay strong, tried to stay sober, tried to stay hopeful…
 
But you’re still waiting.
 
Waiting for the healing.
Waiting for the breakthrough.
Waiting for the door to open.
Waiting to feel free in your mind, even if you’ve left the place that broke you.
 
And if you’re honest… you’re tired.
Tired of being faithful with nothing to show for it.
Tired of waiting for a change that hasn’t come.
Tired of pretending like you’re okay when deep down, you feel stuck and overlooked by God.
 
Let me tell you something that may just break something loose in you:
 
Delay is not denial.
Silence is not absence.
And waiting is not punishment — it’s preparation.

God Honors the Wait — and So Should You
 
The story of Juneteenth isn’t just about freedom — it’s about endurance.
It’s about those who stayed alive in the gap between what was declared and what was delivered.
And that’s where so many of us are living now: in the gap.
 
In recovery, we sometimes feel the same thing.
We know what God says — but we don’t feel it yet.
We’ve been told we’re free — but we still hear the voices of our past.
We’ve left the addiction, but we still battle shame.
We’ve walked out of the abuse, but we still flinch when love tries to come close.
 
Freedom has been declared.
But we’re still learning how to live in it.
 
And Sis, that is holy work.

For the Woman of Encouraging Her Resilience
 
You are not behind.
You are not forgotten.
You are not being punished.
You are in process.
 
The wait may have broken parts of you — but it is also building something stronger inside of you:
Faith that doesn’t need proof.
Strength that doesn’t need applause.
Hope that doesn’t expire.
 
God has not failed you. He’s forming you.
 
So today, we give ourselves permission to feel the weight of the wait.
We mourn what hasn’t come yet.
We cry if we need to.
We scream if we have to.
 
But we don’t quit.
 
Because the delay isn’t a NO — it’s a NOT YET.
Because God is never late.
And neither are you.
 
Reflection Prompt:
  • What have you been waiting on that feels delayed or denied?
  • How has the wait made you doubt your worth or God’s timing?
  • Are you willing to trust that the delay is part of the divine process?

Declaration of the Day:
 
“I will no longer mistake the wait as a sign of failure. I am not behind — I am becoming.”
God sees you in the hallway before the door opens.
He knows what it costs to keep showing up.
He honors your tears. He honors your fight.
And He’s still coming through for you — in His perfect timing.
 
You were never forgotten.
Just being fortified.
This is not a setback.
This is your setup.
 
This is Day 2. The wait will not be wasted.
 

1 Comment

  1. Thank You Aueen Dashonia this was perfect for some situations that I am facing today I trust the process Delayed does not mean denied the promises if God or Yes and Amen Have a blessed day

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My Journey To Resilience And Redemption

 
Hey Resilient Woman, 

My name is Dashonia Marie, and I am a woman who has experienced the depths of pain, addiction, and trauma—but also the transformative power of God’s grace and healing. My life is a testimony of how surrendering to God can bring renewal and restoration, no matter how broken the pieces may seem.
 
For years, I struggled with addiction, loss, and the scars of past trauma, but through faith and determination, I found freedom and purpose. Today, I dedicate my life to helping other women discover that same freedom. Through Encouraging Her Resilience, I strive to create resources that inspire hope, build resilience, and guide women on their journey to recovery—just as I’ve been guided on mine.
 
I believe healing is possible for every woman, no matter her story. My mission is to provide faith-based tools and encouragement to help women see their worth, embrace God’s promises, and walk boldly into the life He has planned for them. I am living proof that God can take our brokenness and turn it into something beautiful, and it is my heart’s calling to walk alongside others as they step into their own transformation.
 

 
Dashonia Marie
Encouraging Her Resilience
Certified Addiction Counselor & Recovery Coach
 


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