You ever look in the mirror and think, “Who the hell is she?”
Not in a “Blimey, who stole my collagen?” way—although, yes, gravity does have a cruel sense of humour—but in that soul-level sense. That disorienting moment where you realise somewhere along the way, you stopped being you.
Not in a “Blimey, who stole my collagen?” way—although, yes, gravity does have a cruel sense of humour—but in that soul-level sense. That disorienting moment where you realise somewhere along the way, you stopped being you.
You became:
The mum.
The wife.
The manager.
The caregiver.
The peacekeeper, the organiser, the one who remembers everyone’s birthdays—including the dog’s.
The wife.
The manager.
The caregiver.
The peacekeeper, the organiser, the one who remembers everyone’s birthdays—including the dog’s.
And you did it brilliantly, by the way. But now… it’s quiet. The kids don’t need you quite the same way. The career isn’t lighting you up like it once did. And your body’s sending you strongly worded memos in the form of hot flushes and 3am anxiety wake-ups.
And suddenly you realise: you’ve spent so long holding everyone else together, you never noticed you were unravelling.
🔍 Where Did You Go?
This is such a common thing I hear from women I coach:
“I don’t know who I am anymore.”
And what they really mean is: I’ve forgotten how to be just me.
“I don’t know who I am anymore.”
And what they really mean is: I’ve forgotten how to be just me.
Because being “just you” doesn’t feel like enough when you’ve been measured by what you do for others your whole life.
But let me tell you something important, love:
You’re still in there.
Under the sensible cardigans and the carefully juggled schedules is a woman who once danced in the kitchen to George Michael, who dreamed of writing a book, or opening a flower shop, or learning Spanish just because.
You’re still in there.
Under the sensible cardigans and the carefully juggled schedules is a woman who once danced in the kitchen to George Michael, who dreamed of writing a book, or opening a flower shop, or learning Spanish just because.
She’s not gone. She’s just buried under decades of “shoulds.”
🧭 The Mid-Life Awakening (Not a Crisis, Thank You Very Much)
You’re not broken. You’re awakening. And no, it’s not always glamorous.
Rediscovery looks like sitting in silence for five minutes and noticing what thoughts come up when nobody’s asking you for anything.
It looks like crying in the car park because you can’t remember what you like doing for fun anymore.
It looks like Googling “life coach for women over 50” at 2am with a cuppa in one hand and a Hobnob in the other.
And you know what? That’s more than OK. That’s the start of something beautiful.
✨ You Get to Choose Who You Want to Be Next
This chapter of your life isn’t about going backwards. You don’t need to become the woman you used to be. That was her season. This is yours.
This time, you get to do it on your terms.
- You get to say no.
- You get to put your needs first without guilt.
- You get to explore, play, experiment, and mess up without the whole world falling apart.
You get to matter again.
❤️ One Last Thing…
If this blog felt like a bit of a gut punch (in the best kind of way), then maybe you’re ready to take the next step.
This is the kind of work I love doing with women—helping you remember who you are, what you want, and how to actually go for it (without burning out or biting someone’s head off in the process).
Let’s have a chat.
No pressure, no fluff. Just a warm, honest conversation about where you are—and where you’d like to go.
No pressure, no fluff. Just a warm, honest conversation about where you are—and where you’d like to go.
Because love, you deserve to feel like you again.
Book a FREE coaching discovery call with me today HERE
Divorce is a seismic life shift. One minute, you’re managing work, family, and your daily to-do list, and the next, you’re navigating a sea of emotions, financial worries, and an identity crisis you never signed up for. It’s exhausting, overwhelming, and at times, utterly isolating. But here’s the truth: you are not alone, and you can come out stronger, wiser, and more confident than ever. Let’s break down the biggest challenges and, more importantly, how to tackle them head-on.
1. Overwhelmed & Exhausted
Between work deadlines, family responsibilities, and the emotional toll of divorce, it’s no wonder you feel like you’re running on fumes. The constant juggling act can leave you feeling stretched too thin.
How to overcome it:
- Prioritise ruthlessly – Not everything needs your immediate attention. Create a simple, manageable to-do list each day.
- Ask for help – Whether from friends, family, or a therapist, you don’t have to do it all alone.
- Self-care isn’t selfish – A walk in nature, a quiet cup of tea, or even a good book can do wonders for recharging your batteries.
2. Lonely & Isolated
Divorce can be a social minefield. Mutual friends may drift, and you might feel like you don’t fit in anywhere anymore. The loneliness can be deafening.
How to overcome it:
- Reconnect with old friends – Reach out to people you lost touch with. Chances are, they’d love to hear from you.
- Find new circles – Join a hobby group, take up a new class, or even try an online community for women in mid-life transitions.
- Travel solo – If you can, book a short getaway to somewhere new. It’s empowering and refreshing.
3. Loss of Identity & Confidence
Who are you outside of being a wife, mother, or partner? When those roles shift, it’s easy to feel like you’ve lost yourself.
How to overcome it:
- Explore new interests – Always wanted to paint, dance, or write? Now’s the time to try.
- Dress for confidence – A wardrobe refresh can lift your spirits and remind you of your unique style.
- Affirm your worth daily – Stand in front of the mirror and remind yourself: I am enough. I am strong. I am still me.
4. Financial Anxiety
Money worries can be one of the scariest parts of starting over, especially if you relied on a joint income.
How to overcome it:
- Get financial advice – A financial planner can help you create a clear, realistic plan for your future.
- Budget smartly – Track your spending and focus on essentials while planning for treats, too.
- Consider new income streams – Freelancing, consulting, or even a side hustle can bring in extra income and boost your confidence.
5. Guilt & Self-Blame
The ‘what ifs’ and ‘if onlys’ can be relentless. But beating yourself up won’t change the past.
How to overcome it:
- Reframe your thinking – Instead of dwelling on mistakes, focus on what you’ve learned and how you can grow.
- Forgive yourself – You did the best you could with what you knew at the time.
- Write a letter – Express your feelings on paper—then tear it up. It’s a powerful way to release guilt.
6. Fear of the Future
The unknown can feel terrifying. Will you be alone forever? Will life ever feel stable again?
How to overcome it:
- Take small steps – You don’t have to have it all figured out today. Focus on what you can control now.
- Create a vision board – Visualising your future can help shift your mindset towards hope and excitement.
- Embrace the adventure – This is a new chapter. Who knows what wonderful opportunities await?
7. Anger & Resentment
Betrayal, unfairness, and unresolved pain can fuel resentment. Carrying it around only weighs you down.
How to overcome it:
- Allow yourself to feel – Suppressing emotions only makes them fester. Let yourself cry, scream, or write it all out.
- Practice forgiveness (for you, not them) – Forgiveness isn’t about excusing bad behaviour; it’s about freeing yourself from its grip.
- Channel anger into action – Exercise, volunteer work, or even redecorating your home can turn negative energy into positive change.
Celebrities Who Came Back Stronger
If you need inspiration, look no further than these women who transformed their lives post-divorce:
- Adele – She turned her heartbreak into the record-breaking album 30, proving that healing can be powerful.
- Elizabeth Hurley – After her split from Hugh Grant, she rebuilt her career and became a thriving businesswoman.
- Tina Turner – She left an abusive marriage and went on to become a music legend, showing that life can begin again at any age.
Final Thoughts
Divorce isn’t the end of your story; it’s the beginning of a new chapter. It’s a chance to rediscover yourself, rebuild your confidence, and create a life that’s truly yours. You are stronger than you know, and your best days are still ahead. 💖
If you need any help with beginning your new chapter in life. Please contact me..
