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When Trauma Shapes Your Thoughts, But God Reshapes Your Identity

When Trauma Shapes Your Thoughts, But God Reshapes Your Identity
Beautiful woman,

Tonight, I want to sit with you heart-to-heart. Not as a counselor. Not as a leader. Not as someone who has it all together. But as a woman who knows what it feels like to battle thoughts that don’t match the woman God says you are. I want to talk with you as someone who understands the mental patterns trauma creates, the way it infiltrates your thinking, and the way it attempts to disguise itself as truth. Because if you’ve ever felt stuck in your own mind, confused by your own emotions, or weighed down by thoughts you didn’t choose, I need you to know—you are not alone, and you are not crazy.

Trauma has a way of entering your life without permission and then trying to rewrite your inner world. Trauma doesn’t just show up, hurt you, and leave. It lingers. It speaks. It whispers. It shapes. And if we’re honest, it teaches. Trauma becomes a teacher long before you even realize a lesson is being taught. It teaches you how to protect yourself even when you’re no longer in danger. It teaches you how to survive even when you’re supposed to be living. It teaches you to expect abandonment even when you’re loved. It teaches you to silence yourself even when God is calling you to speak. Trauma will make you believe that your triggers are your identity, that your fears are your truth, and that your reactions are who you are.

But hear me: trauma may have influenced your thinking, but it does not have permission to define your destiny.
There comes a moment in your healing journey where you must confront the lies that trauma built and replace them with the truth God established. And that moment is right here. Right now. In this very space with me.

The Word of God says in Romans 12:2, “Be transformed by the renewing of your mind.” That means your mind can change. Your patterns can shift. Your thoughts can be retrained. Transformation doesn’t start with your behavior—it starts with your thinking. And when trauma has shaped your thinking, the only thing strong enough to reshape it is truth. The truth of God. The truth of who you are. The truth that trauma never wanted you to discover.

Isaiah 41:10 reminds you that God is with you even in the places your trauma tried to bury you. When trauma told you that you were alone, God planted Himself right there in the middle of your wounds, waiting for you to realize He never left. Psalm 46:10 teaches you that stillness is not punishment but protection. That God takes the burden of control off your shoulders because it was never yours to carry. And Psalm 34:18 reveals that your brokenness is not a place of shame—it is a place where God sits closest, listening, holding, healing, and gathering the pieces you thought were beyond repair.

You see, trauma builds its strength through repetition. “You’re not enough.” “You’re too much.” “No one stays.” “You ruin everything good.” “You should have known better.” “Something must be wrong with you.” Trauma knows if it says it long enough, you might start believing it. But the moment you expose trauma’s voice to God’s truth, its power begins to break. Because trauma speaks from the wound, but God speaks from eternity. Trauma speaks from fear, but God speaks from love. Trauma speaks from distortion, but God speaks from identity.

When Jesus stood in the boat and said, “Peace, be still” (Mark 4:39), He wasn’t just calming a storm. He was revealing His authority over chaos—external chaos and internal chaos. The storms inside you are no match for the One who commands peace. Peace isn’t something you earn. Peace is something He speaks into you. And tonight, He is speaking that peace directly into your mind.

I want you to know something deeply: you are not the woman trauma trained you to be. You are the woman God called you to be. Trauma shaped your reactions. God is shaping your restoration. Trauma distorted your lens. God is clearing your vision. Trauma wounded your identity. God is rewriting it.

Your healing is not about becoming who you were before trauma. It is about becoming who you were designed to be beyond trauma.
As you reflect tonight, I want you to lean into this truth: renewing your mind is a process. It is not a one-time event. It is a daily invitation to choose truth over triggers, faith over fear, identity over insecurity, and God’s voice over trauma’s lies. Healing is not about perfection—it’s about awareness, intention, and surrender. It’s about partnering with God as He rebuilds the parts of you that trauma tried to destroy.

Ask yourself: What lie has ruled my mind for too long? What part of me needs God’s truth tonight? Where have I confused trauma’s voice for God’s? What would my life look like if I started thinking from healing instead of survival?

I want you to remember this: your mind is redeemable. Your thoughts are retrainable. Your identity is restorable. And your healing is inevitable when God is involved.

Beautiful woman, tonight God is renewing you. Not gently—powerfully. Not slowly—intentionally. Not halfway—completely.

You are stepping into a new mental reality…
one built on truth, not trauma.
on identity, not insecurity.
on God’s voice, not your wounds.

You are rising.
You are healing.

You are being transformed from the inside out.
And tonight is only the beginning.

Week One- Day Two Nigh Devotional

Week One- Day Two Nigh Devotional

Beautiful woman,
Before you close your eyes tonight,
I want you to breathe.
Deeply.
Slowly.
Intentionally.
Because tonight’s devotional is different.
This is not about information.
This is about
 honesty, healing, and meeting Jesus in the private corners of your mind—where the spirals live.
You made it through another day.
A day where your mind was pulled in directions nobody else sees.
A day where fear whispered, thoughts raced, or heaviness sat on your chest.
A day where you showed up anyway.
And I need you to hear this:
God saw every thought.
He heard every unspoken fear.
He understood every trigger you didn’t know how to explain.
And tonight, He draws near to you—not in judgment, but in comfort.
This devotional is your invitation into rest—real rest—mental rest.
Let’s go deeper together.

When Anxiety Spirals Feel Loud at Night

Nights are often the hardest.
When the world quiets down, the mind grows louder.
This is when:
• your body remembers danger
• your trauma remembers loss
• your thoughts remember fear
• your heart remembers emptiness
You are not imagining this.
This is what happens when your nervous system has lived in survival mode for too long.
But tonight we align with truth.
Isaiah 41:10 — “Do not fear, for I am with you.”
This scripture is not a dismissal of anxiety;
it is a divine declaration.
“Do not fear” — not because your fears are fake,
but because God is present.
“For I am with you” — anxiety screams isolation,
but God whispers companionship.
Tonight, God is not telling you to “stop being anxious.”
He is telling you that
 you do not face your anxiety alone.

When Overthinking Won’t Let You Sleep

Overthinking at night is one of the most common trauma responses.
It is your mind trying to solve problems that are not your responsibility.
It is your body trying to protect you from things that are no longer happening.
It is the leftover tension of years of unpredictability.
But tonight, God speaks something different.
Psalm 46:10 — “Be still, and know that I am God.”
This is not a command to stop thinking;
it is permission to stop carrying everything.
“Be still” — release the weight you were never meant to hold.
“Know that I am God” — remember that He holds what your mind cannot.
Tonight, God is not asking you to “just calm down.”
He is inviting you into surrender—
a surrender that brings peace, not pressure.

When Depression Loops Hit Hard After Dark

Nighttime depression hits differently.
It comes with silence.
With memories.
With exhaustion that feels heavy in your bones.
But depression is not your identity;
it is a response to years of carrying pain without rest.
And God knows.
Psalm 34:18 — “The Lord is close to the brokenhearted.”
He is close.
Close to the woman who cries in silence.
Close to the woman who feels numb.
Close to the woman who can’t explain her heaviness.
Close to the woman who is tired of pretending she’s okay.
Your heaviness does not push Him away.
It draws Him near.
Tonight, instead of hiding your pain,
invite Him into it.

The Quiet Spiritual Battle of Nighttime Spirals

Let’s be honest:
Nighttime is where spiritual warfare often intensifies.
This is where the trauma voice tries to take over.
Trauma voice says:
“You’re alone.”
“No one understands.”
“This will never change.”
“This is who you are now.”
But Jesus speaks differently.
2 Corinthians 10:5 — “Take every thought captive.”
This is not a suggestion.
It is a spiritual strategy.
A mental weapon.
A reclaiming of your mind.
Not every thought deserves a home.
Not every fear deserves agreement.
Not every lie deserves belief.
Tonight you learn to challenge what challenges you.

Where Jesus Meets You Tonight

Jesus does not wait for you to be strong.
He meets you in the weakness you avoid showing the world.
Mark 4:39 — “Peace, be still.”
These words were not gentle.
They were authoritative.
Commanding.
Restoring.
Jesus speaks to your mind the same way He spoke to the storm:
“Peace.” — addressing the chaos.
“Be still.” — addressing the fear.
Jesus is not intimidated by your spirals.
He steps into them with authority.

Tonight’s Mini-Lesson: “Your Spirals Are Evidence of Healing in Progress.”

Spirals are alarms—
they point to the places where God is rebuilding you.
They show:
• where you still need gentleness
• where you still need Jesus
• where old wounds still speak
• where truth still needs to take root
Your spirals do not disqualify you.
They guide your healing.
Tonight, you release shame.
Tonight, you release fear.
Tonight, you allow Jesus to step into your mind with authority, truth, and restoration.

Tonight’s Reflection Questions

Which spiral challenged me the most today—anxiety, overthinking, or depression?
What emotion felt strongest in my body tonight, and why?
Which scripture stood out to me most, and how does it bring truth to my spiral?
What lie tried to control my thoughts today?
What truth is Jesus speaking into that lie tonight?

Before You Sleep

If you haven’t already, make sure you book your one-on-one session with me.
This part of the journey requires support, accountability, and space for your voice.
You are not walking this alone.
Your mind matters.
Your healing matters.
Your peace matters.
Tonight, rest with this truth:
Jesus is not afraid of your spirals.
He is transforming them.



You’re Surviving… But You Deserve to LIVE.

You’re Surviving… But You Deserve to LIVE.
Beautiful Sister,

I want to speak to you directly and honestly, because what I am about to share is not a simple course announcement. It is a lifeline. A divine interruption. A moment where Heaven leans in and whispers to your spirit:

“Daughter… it’s time to heal.”

But before you read another sentence, I need you to ask yourself something brutally honest:

Am I living… or just surviving?
Because the truth is this:
Most women are not living.
They are functioning.
They are maintaining.
They are enduring.
They are carrying trauma, pain, and mental battles in silence.
They are strong because they have no choice, not because they are okay.
They pour into everyone else—
children, family, friendships, relationships, ministry—
yet go home mentally exhausted, emotionally drained, spiritually empty, and silently dying inside.

Maybe that is you.

Maybe you have been enduring:
Anxiety that sits in your chest no matter how hard you try to breathe through it.
Depression that pulls you under and makes simple tasks feel heavy.
Trauma that still controls your reactions long after the moment has passed.
Emotional rollercoasters that make you feel unstable and misunderstood.
Identity confusion that leaves you unsure of who you are outside of pain, survival, and responsibility.
Disconnection from God—believing in Him, but struggling to feel Him.
The terrifying reality of being broken for so long that brokenness feels normal.

Sister, hear me:
God did not create you to live this way.
He created you for wholeness.
For stability.
For identity.
For clarity.
For peace.
For renewal.
For freedom.
And it is for that woman—the one you have been, and the one you are becoming—that I created:

WALKING IN WHOLENESS

A 6-Week Mind, Soul & Identity Reset
A Signature Elite Coaching Experience by Dashonia Marie

This is the most intensive, transformative, and sacred healing experience I have ever offered.
It is designed for the woman who is done pretending.
Done breaking in silence.
Done surviving.
Ready for real healing—not hype, not temporary encouragement, not surface-level positivity.
Let me show you what this experience truly offers.

WHAT WALKING IN WHOLENESS DOES FOR YOU

Most programs help you cope.
This program helps you transform.
This journey is designed to:
✔ Rebuild your mind
✔ Regulate your emotions
✔ Heal your trauma
✔ Restore your spirit
✔ Resurrect your identity
✔ Strengthen your boundaries
✔ Restructure your lifestyle
✔ Bring you into wholeness

This is a program built on trauma-informed clinical methods, nervous system stabilization, Christian counseling strategies, biblical truth, identity restoration, emotional healing, mental health reconstruction, and Transformational Healing Exercises that go deeper than anything traditional coaching offers.
This is where true change happens.

THE 6-WEEK BREAKDOWN

WEEK 1 — MENTAL RESET
Where your mind learns to stop attacking you.
We dismantle spirals, intrusive thoughts, anxious patterns, trauma-based beliefs, and mental torment.
You learn how to calm your mind, interrupt spirals, evaluate trauma-influenced thinking, replace lies with truth, rewire mental patterns, and build a mentally safe inner world.

WEEK 2 — EMOTIONAL RESET
Where you learn to feel without falling apart.
You will understand emotional triggers, identify root wounds behind your reactions, regulate your emotions, release grief, anger, sadness, and fear safely, and heal emotional pain stored deep in your body.
This is emotional deliverance combined with emotional intelligence.

WEEK 3 — SPIRITUAL RESET
Where God restores the part of you you thought was gone forever.
You will heal spiritual trauma, restore intimacy with God, break condemnation and shame, rebuild your prayer life, and understand how God walks with women through trauma and mental health battles.
This is where your spirit breathes again.

WEEK 4 — IDENTITY RESET
Where the woman you lost rises again.
You will release survival identities, heal the “not enough” wound, break the labels life placed on you, rediscover your voice, rebuild confidence, and step into who God originally created you to be.
This is identity resurrection.

WEEK 5 — BOUNDARY RESET
Where your peace becomes protected.
You will break trauma bonds, stop people-pleasing, identify unsafe relationships, create healthy boundaries, learn to say no with confidence, and heal the part of you that accepts mistreatment.
This is boundary restoration guided by Christ and by clinical strategy.

WEEK 6 — LIFESTYLE RESET
Where healing becomes your new normal.
You will build a stable mental and spiritual routine, establish emotional maintenance rhythms, prevent backsliding, create non-negotiables, and step into your new identity daily.
This is where everything becomes permanent.

THE WOMAN YOU BECOME AFTER THESE 6 WEEKS

After this journey, you will:
✔ Think clearer
✔ Feel lighter
✔ Walk in confidence
✔ Trust God deeper
✔ Regulate your emotions
✔ Set firm boundaries
✔ Stop settling
✔ Know who you are
✔ Heal trauma at the root
✔ Become the healed version of yourself
Not temporarily.
Permanently.
This course will transform the way you think, feel, pray, breathe, respond, choose relationships, and walk with God.
This is not a class.
This is a new beginning.

THIS IS YOUR MOMENT

Your healing.
Your restoration.
Your transformation.
Your wholeness.
You have survived enough.
Now it is time to rise.

Enrollment opens soon, and I promise you—this is the program you will look back on and say:
“This changed my life.”
“This saved my mind.”
“This helped restore me back to myself.”
“This brought me back to God.”

With love and purpose,

Dashonia Marie
Creator of Becoming Her
Founder of Encouraging Her Resilience



SPECIAL THANKSGIVING DAY DEVOTIONAL

SPECIAL THANKSGIVING DAY DEVOTIONAL

For the Women of Encouraging Her Resilience & Becoming Her

By Dashonia Marie
Scripture Focus — 1 Thessalonians 5:18 (NLT)
“Be thankful in all circumstances, for this is God’s will for you who belong to Christ Jesus.”

Beautiful Woman of God,
Today is Thanksgiving — a day set aside not simply for food, family, laughter, or tradition… but for spiritual reflection, heart-posture, and God-centered gratitude.
Before you pick up a fork, before the conversations begin, before the noise of the day surrounds you —
I want you to pause… breathe… and let this truth settle deep into your spirit:
 God has been good to you.
 God has carried you.
 God has kept you.
 God has covered you.
Not because life was easy.
Not because the year was gentle.
Not because everything made sense.
But because
 He is faithful, and His love never fails.

 Sit With the Goodness of God Today

I want you to take a moment — right where you are — and really sit with the goodness of God.
Think about January…
Think about the moments where you didn’t know how you were going to make it.
Think about the days you cried silently.
Think about the nights you went to bed heavy and woke up determined.
Think about the battles you fought in your mind that no one else knew.
Think about the storms that should have drowned you…
and the grief that should have broken you…
But look at you —
still standing, still breathing, still becoming, still growing, still rising.
That is not luck.
That is not coincidence.
That is not your own strength.
That is God.
He carried you through things your mouth never spoke out loud.
He protected you from things your eyes never saw coming.
He healed pieces of you you didn’t know were wounded.
He answered prayers you forgot you prayed.
God has been better to you than you have been to yourself.

 The True Meaning of Thanksgiving

Thanksgiving is not about the table —
it is about the
 heart.
It is not about the feast —
it is about the
 Father.
It is not about what we receive —
it is about what we
 remember.
The true meaning of Thanksgiving is recognizing that
every breath, every blessing, every breakthrough, every battle won
is because of God’s unshakable love.
Thanksgiving is not a holiday —
it is a holy posture.
A posture that says:
“God, I may not have everything I want,
but I thank You for everything I need.”
“God, I may have walked through pain,
but I thank You for the strength to endure.”
“God, I may have cried this year,
but I thank You because You collected every tear.”
“God, I may not understand everything,
but I thank You because You remained God through it all.”
Thanksgiving is the choice to honor Him,
even in the places that hurt.
Thanksgiving is the decision to trust Him,
even in the places that feel uncertain.
Thanksgiving is the discipline of remembering
just how good He has been —
even when life wasn’t.

 How to Posture Your Heart in True Thanksgiving

A thankful heart is not loud…
It is not forced…
It is not performance…
A thankful heart is surrendered.
Here is how you posture your heart today:

1. Slow Down and Reflect

Quiet your mind.
Ask yourself:
“Where do I see the fingerprints of God in my life this year?”
You will find them everywhere.

2. Remember What God Brought You Through

Write it down.
Name it.
Acknowledge it.
Let your spirit testify.

3. Release What You Cannot Control

Thankfulness grows in the soil of surrender.
Let go — and let God prove Himself again.

4. Praise Him With Intention

Don’t wait for a feeling.
Praise is a weapon.
Use it today.

5. Give God the Glory

Every win.
Every healing.
Every breakthrough.
Every breath.
He did it — and He deserves the thanks.

 A Thanksgiving Blessing Over You

Beautiful woman,
As you move through this Thanksgiving Day, I pray that:
✨ Gratitude wraps around your heart.
✨ Peace settles over your home.
✨ Joy rises in you like strength.
✨ God’s presence fills every moment.
May you walk today — and every day —
as a woman
 covered, kept, and carried by God.
Your thankfulness is your power.
Use it boldly.
Use it intentionally.
Use it as worship unto God.

Happy Thanksgiving, Beautiful Sister.

May your heart overflow with gratitude,
and may God continue to reveal His goodness in ways that take your breath away.
With love,
Dashonia Marie


THANKSGIVING DEVOTIONAL

THANKSGIVING DEVOTIONAL
Scripture Focus — 1 Thessalonians 5:18 (NLT)
“Be thankful in all circumstances, for this is God’s will for you who belong to Christ Jesus.”

Beautiful, Resilient Woman of God,
As we gather in this sacred season of Thanksgiving, I feel a deep stirring in my spirit — a holy weight of gratitude, reverence, and awe for what God has done in your life this year. This devotional is not just another message… it is a spiritual pouring, a heartfelt offering, and a prophetic declaration of thanks from my heart to yours.
From January until this November, God has carried us through valleys we didn’t think we would survive, storms we didn’t believe we would outlive, and battles we didn’t feel strong enough to face. Yet here we are — standing, breathing, worshiping, healing, and rising — not because of our strength, but because of the supernatural hand of God.

THE TRUE MEANING OF THANKSGIVING

Thanksgiving is more than a meal…
More than family gathering around a table…
More than tradition…
Thanksgiving is a spiritual posture.
A divine reminder.
A holy acknowledgment that everything we have — and everything we survived — is because of God’s unfailing love.
Thanksgiving is the moment your soul pauses and says:
“God, You kept me when I couldn’t keep myself. You carried me when life was too heavy. You protected me when danger was near. You rescued me when the enemy tried to write my ending.”
The true meaning of Thanksgiving is returning the glory back to God.
It is remembering that:
  • His mercy withheld what could have destroyed us.
  • His grace gave what we didn’t deserve.
  • His power covered dangers we never saw coming.
  • His love overturned plots the enemy set against us.
  • His hand held us when grief tried to break us.
  • His presence became our sanity when life shook us to the core.
Thanksgiving is the spiritual act of saying,
“Lord, I recognize that without You… I would not be here.”

REFLECTION OF GOD’S GOODNESS THIS YEAR

This year, some of us walked through grief so deep we wondered if we would ever breathe again.
Some fought silent battles in the mind that no one else knew about.
Some carried responsibilities that felt too heavy for one heart.
Some experienced betrayals, losses, breakdowns, and spiritual warfare that tried to swallow us whole.
But the faithfulness of God carried you.
His strength sustained you.
His peace stabilized you.
His protection surrounded you.
His love refused to let you go.
You are not standing here by accident —
You are standing because God has been good.
And as you sit at the table this Thanksgiving — or even if your heart is still healing, even if the chair of a loved one feels painfully empty — I pray you will feel the warmth of God wrapping around you.
Pause.
Breathe.
Reflect.
Worship.
Let your spirit whisper,
“God… You have been faithful.”

A MESSAGE FROM MY HEART TO YOURS

To every woman connected to Encouraging Her Resilience and Becoming Her…
I want to look you in your spiritual eyes and tell you this with authority, with sincerity, and with the fullness of my heart:
I am thankful for you.
Your faithfulness to this journey…
Your willingness to grow…
Your courage to show up when life was heavy…
Your strength to keep pushing when quitting would have been easier…
Your heart to learn, to heal, to elevate…
It humbles me. It blesses me. It inspires me.
I am honored — deeply honored — that God chose me to be a part of your life.
To teach you, to encourage you, to pray for you, to walk with you, and to witness what God is doing inside you.
If no one in this world has told you they are thankful for you, hear me clearly:
I, Dashonia Marie, am thankful for you.
Thankful for your presence.
Thankful for your trust.
Thankful for your growth.
Thankful that God aligned our paths.
Thankful that we are sisters in Christ.
Remain in God — abide in Him — cling to Him…
And He will remain in you, strengthen you, and elevate you.

Happy Thanksgiving, Beautiful Woman of God.
May this season fill you with peace, gratitude, reflection, and the undeniable presence of the Holy Spirit.
You are loved. You are covered. You are chosen. You are kept.
And you are deeply appreciated.

 
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From Chains to Change — How God Redeemed My Life

Hey, Resilient Woman — Your Healing Starts Here

My name is Dashonia Marie, and I am living proof that God can take a shattered life and turn it into a story of strength, purpose, and redemption. I’ve walked through the fire — addiction, trauma, loss, and pain that tried to silence my purpose — but God’s grace met me in the ashes and taught me how to rise.

I know what it feels like to be broken, to question your worth, and to wonder if freedom is even possible. But I also know what it means to encounter the healing power of God — the kind that restores what was stolen, rewrites your identity, and breathes new life into weary hearts.

Through Encouraging Her Resilience, I’ve made it my mission to walk beside women like you — women who are ready to break cycles, renew their minds, and rediscover the woman God created them to be. This is not about perfection; it’s about progress. It’s about learning that your past does not define you — God’s promise does.

As a Certified Addiction Counselor and Faith-Based Recovery Coach, I don’t just offer sessions; I offer safe spaces — places where healing is nurtured, faith is strengthened, and transformation begins from the inside out.

I believe every woman has a comeback story waiting to be written — and I’m here to help you write yours. Because if God could redeem my life, He can surely restore yours. 

Healing is possible. Hope is real. Freedom is yours — and it starts with saying yes.

With love and grace,

Dashonia Marie

Founder, Encouraging Her Resilience
Certified Addiction Counselor & Recovery Coach


 


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