Beautiful woman,
Let’s take the surface off this today.
Trusting God is easy when the door opens.
It is easy when the money comes through.
It is easy when the relationship works out.
It is easy when the diagnosis is clear and hopeful.
It is easy when the money comes through.
It is easy when the relationship works out.
It is easy when the diagnosis is clear and hopeful.
But what about when it’s not?
What about when the door closes?
When the phone doesn’t ring?
When the apology never comes?
When the healing feels slow?
When you prayed and it still fell apart?
When the phone doesn’t ring?
When the apology never comes?
When the healing feels slow?
When you prayed and it still fell apart?
That is where trust becomes real.
Proverbs 3:5–6 (NIV) says:
“Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight.”
“Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight.”
All your heart.
Not the strong parts.
Not the confident parts.
All of it.
Not the confident parts.
All of it.
And that is where most of us struggle.
Let Me Be Transparent
There was a season in my life where trusting God was not poetic. It was painful.
I had lost things.
I had lost people.
I had lost stability.
I had lost control.
I had lost people.
I had lost stability.
I had lost control.
And if I’m honest, I did not struggle because I didn’t believe in God.
I struggled because I didn’t understand Him.
I struggled because I didn’t understand Him.
I didn’t understand why obedience didn’t immediately equal relief.
I didn’t understand why surrender didn’t instantly remove pressure.
I didn’t understand why healing felt like breaking before it felt like restoration.
I didn’t understand why surrender didn’t instantly remove pressure.
I didn’t understand why healing felt like breaking before it felt like restoration.
There were nights I prayed and cried in the same breath.
There were moments I said, “God, I trust You,” but internally I was still trying to figure out a backup plan.
There were moments I said, “God, I trust You,” but internally I was still trying to figure out a backup plan.
Because when you’ve survived trauma, disappointment, or instability, trust does not come naturally. Control does.
And I had to confront something hard:
I wasn’t lacking belief.
I was lacking surrender.
I was lacking surrender.
Trusting God When You Don’t Know the Outcome
Matthew 6:30 (NIV) says:
“If that is how God clothes the grass of the field, which is here today and tomorrow is thrown into the fire, will he not much more clothe you—you of little faith?”
When Jesus said “you of little faith,” He was not insulting.
He was exposing anxiety.
He was exposing anxiety.
He was addressing women and men who were worried about provision, about survival, about what comes next.
And if we are honest, most of our fear still centers around the same thing:
Will I be okay?
Will I have enough?
Will this work out?
Will I be abandoned again?
Will I fail?
Will I fall back?
Will I have enough?
Will this work out?
Will I be abandoned again?
Will I fail?
Will I fall back?
Trusting God anyway means choosing to believe He will cover you, even when the math does not add up.
The Real Reason Trust Is Hard
Let’s tell the truth.
Some women struggle to trust God because they have been disappointed by authority, by leadership, by fathers, by partners, by systems.
When trust has been broken repeatedly, your nervous system learns to brace for impact.
So instead of trusting fully, you:
Overwork.
Overthink.
Overprepare.
Overanalyze.
Overcontrol.
Overthink.
Overprepare.
Overanalyze.
Overcontrol.
You tell yourself it’s wisdom.
But sometimes it is fear wearing wisdom’s clothes.
But sometimes it is fear wearing wisdom’s clothes.
And God is not asking you to be reckless.
He is asking you to release what you were never meant to carry alone.
What Happens When We Don’t Trust Him
When we don’t trust God fully, life becomes heavy.
We make decisions from anxiety instead of alignment.
We say yes out of fear of lack.
We stay in places God told us to leave because stability feels safer than obedience.
We chase money instead of peace.
We hold onto relationships God already released.
We say yes out of fear of lack.
We stay in places God told us to leave because stability feels safer than obedience.
We chase money instead of peace.
We hold onto relationships God already released.
And we wonder why we are tired.
Trusting God is not passive.
It is active surrender.
It is active surrender.
Matthew 6:33 (NIV) says:
“But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well.”
Seek first.
Not second.
Not when everything falls apart.
First.
Not when everything falls apart.
First.
That means when you wake up and your mind is already racing, you choose Him first.
When fear tries to speak, you answer with truth.
When uncertainty shows up, you align your heart before you align your plan.
When fear tries to speak, you answer with truth.
When uncertainty shows up, you align your heart before you align your plan.
How to Trust God When You Don’t Know How
Let me make this practical.
Trust is built in daily discipline.
Be honest with God. Tell Him exactly where you struggle.
Stop pretending to be stronger than you are.
Release control in small decisions first.
Remember the seasons He already brought you through.
Stop rehearsing worst-case scenarios and start rehearsing His faithfulness.
Stop pretending to be stronger than you are.
Release control in small decisions first.
Remember the seasons He already brought you through.
Stop rehearsing worst-case scenarios and start rehearsing His faithfulness.
Trust grows when obedience becomes consistent.
And sometimes trusting God anyway looks like:
Not responding when you want to react.
Not panicking when money feels tight.
Not returning to what once broke you.
Not forcing doors that will not open.
Not panicking when money feels tight.
Not returning to what once broke you.
Not forcing doors that will not open.
It looks like restraint.
It looks like maturity.
It looks like growth.
It looks like maturity.
It looks like growth.
Woman of Encouraging Her Resilience
You are not here just to survive another storm.
You are here to build a life anchored in faith.
Trusting God anyway does not mean you will not cry.
It means you cry and still choose Him.
It means you cry and still choose Him.
It does not mean you will not question.
It means you question and still surrender.
It means you question and still surrender.
It does not mean fear disappears.
It means faith becomes louder.
It means faith becomes louder.
There were seasons I had nothing but God.
And I learned something powerful:
And I learned something powerful:
When everything else is stripped away, and you still stand,
it was never the money.
It was never the relationship.
It was never the plan.
it was never the money.
It was never the relationship.
It was never the plan.
It was Him.
And He was enough.
Beautiful woman,
You may not understand what God is doing.
You may not see how it will work.
You may not feel strong.
You may not see how it will work.
You may not feel strong.
But trust Him anyway.
Not halfway.
Not emotionally.
Not temporarily.
Not emotionally.
Not temporarily.
Completely.
Because when God is your source,
you do not collapse when circumstances shift.
you do not collapse when circumstances shift.
You remain.
And that is resilience.
— Dashonia Marie
It’s Not the Devil. It’s the Woman in the Mirror.
Beautiful woman,
I’m not coming soft today.
Because some of us don’t need comfort — we need clarity.
It’s Wednesday. The middle of the week.
And the middle is where excuses get exposed.
And the middle is where excuses get exposed.
You say you want change.
You say you want peace.
You say you want growth.
You say you want a better life.
You say you want peace.
You say you want growth.
You say you want a better life.
But when it’s time to examine yourself…
you get quiet.
you get quiet.
Or defensive.
Or spiritual.
Let’s tell the truth.
Some of you have never sat down and done a real self-examination.
Not surface reflection.
Not “I know I’m not perfect.”
Not “God is still working on me.”
Not surface reflection.
Not “I know I’m not perfect.”
Not “God is still working on me.”
I’m talking about sitting before God and saying:
“Lord, show me what I refuse to see about myself.”
Because here’s what I’ve learned — and I had to learn this the hard way:
It’s easier to rebuke the devil
than to rebuke your own patterns.
than to rebuke your own patterns.
The Pattern You Keep Protecting
Let’s talk real life.
You keep attracting the same type of relationship —
but you blame the dating pool.
but you blame the dating pool.
You keep struggling financially —
but you avoid budgeting because it makes you uncomfortable.
but you avoid budgeting because it makes you uncomfortable.
You keep saying people “misunderstand” you —
but you never examine how you communicate.
but you never examine how you communicate.
You say you want discipline —
but you don’t follow through when nobody is watching.
but you don’t follow through when nobody is watching.
You say you want spiritual growth —
but you resist correction.
but you resist correction.
And when things don’t move,
you call it warfare.
you call it warfare.
Sis.
Sometimes it’s not warfare.
Sometimes it’s immaturity.
Sometimes it’s immaturity.
Why Women Avoid Accountability
Let me tell you something most women won’t admit:
Accountability feels like exposure.
It forces you to admit:
“I did that.”
“I chose that.”
“I allowed that.”
“I ignored that.”
“I avoided that.”
“I did that.”
“I chose that.”
“I allowed that.”
“I ignored that.”
“I avoided that.”
And that is uncomfortable.
Because once you admit it…
you can’t pretend anymore.
you can’t pretend anymore.
And pretending feels safer than change.
What Self-Examination Really Is
Self-examination is not beating yourself up.
It’s not shame.
It’s not condemnation.
It’s not shame.
It’s not condemnation.
It is spiritual maturity.
The Bible says in 2 Corinthians 13:5 (NIV):
“Examine yourselves to see whether you are in the faith; test yourselves.”
It does not say examine your haters.
It does not say test your enemies.
It says examine yourself.
It does not say test your enemies.
It says examine yourself.
Because you cannot heal what you won’t acknowledge.
And you cannot break a cycle you refuse to see.
And you cannot break a cycle you refuse to see.
Let’s Get Honest About What’s Holding You Back
It’s not always the devil.
Sometimes it’s:
• Your fear of discomfort.
• Your addiction to chaos because peace feels unfamiliar.
• Your refusal to forgive.
• Your pride.
• Your procrastination.
• Your emotional reactions.
• Your lack of discipline.
• Your need to be right.
• Your avoidance of hard conversations.
• Your addiction to chaos because peace feels unfamiliar.
• Your refusal to forgive.
• Your pride.
• Your procrastination.
• Your emotional reactions.
• Your lack of discipline.
• Your need to be right.
• Your avoidance of hard conversations.
That’s not an attack.
That’s a mirror.
That’s a mirror.
And growth requires mirrors.
Spiritually, Here’s the Truth
You can pray every day and still avoid growth.
You can quote scripture and still lack accountability.
You can fast and still protect your patterns.
Because transformation does not happen just because you feel spiritual.
It happens when you are willing to let God confront you.
Not just comfort you.
Confront you.
I Had to Learn This Too
There was a time in my life when I blamed everything.
My environment.
My past.
My trauma.
Other people.
My past.
My trauma.
Other people.
Until God sat me down and showed me something uncomfortable:
“You are praying for change, but protecting the behavior that keeps you stuck.”
That hit different.
Because it meant I had power —
but I wasn’t using it.
but I wasn’t using it.
And the moment I took accountability,
everything began to shift.
everything began to shift.
Let Me Ask You Something Bold
If nothing changes in your life this year…
Would it truly be the enemy?
Or would it be because you refuse to confront yourself?
Let that sit.
Wednesday Wisdom
It’s hump day.
You’re halfway through the week.
Halfway through habits.
Halfway through patterns.
Halfway through decisions.
Halfway through patterns.
Halfway through decisions.
You still have time to shift.
But it starts here:
Stop blaming.
Start examining.
Start examining.
Stop rebuking the devil for battles he didn’t start.
Start confronting the version of you that avoids growth.
Start confronting the version of you that avoids growth.
Because the woman who can sit with herself,
tell herself the truth,
and invite God into her blind spots —
tell herself the truth,
and invite God into her blind spots —
That woman becomes unstoppable.
And I believe you are capable of being her.
— Dashonia Marie
More Than Enough Monday
When Faith Has to Be Louder Than Fear
Matthew 6:30 (NIV)
“If that is how God clothes the grass of the field, which is here today and tomorrow is thrown into the fire, will he not much more clothe you—you of little faith?”
“If that is how God clothes the grass of the field, which is here today and tomorrow is thrown into the fire, will he not much more clothe you—you of little faith?”
Beautiful woman,
Let me speak to you in truth today — not polished faith, not social-media faith, but real faith.
Let me speak to you in truth today — not polished faith, not social-media faith, but real faith.
Faith isn’t tested when things are calm.
Faith is tested when life starts pressing in on you.
Faith is tested when life starts pressing in on you.
When the bills don’t line up.
When the bank account looks disrespectful.
When the doctor’s report makes your chest tighten.
When you’re trying to heal, but survival still feels louder than peace.
When you love God — but you’re tired of always having to “figure it out.”
When the bank account looks disrespectful.
When the doctor’s report makes your chest tighten.
When you’re trying to heal, but survival still feels louder than peace.
When you love God — but you’re tired of always having to “figure it out.”
That’s where faith gets shaky.
Not because you don’t believe in God.
But because fear starts talking louder than trust.
But because fear starts talking louder than trust.
And Jesus knew that.
“You of Little Faith” Was Never a Put-Down
When Jesus said, “you of little faith,” He wasn’t shaming anyone.
He was calling out the source of their anxiety.
He was calling out the source of their anxiety.
In Matthew 6, Jesus talks about the most basic, everyday concerns:
- What will we eat?
- What will we wear?
- How will we make it?
Translation? Provision. Security. Survival.
And then Jesus does something intentional.
He points to grass — something temporary, fragile, and easily replaced — and says:
He points to grass — something temporary, fragile, and easily replaced — and says:
If God takes care of that…
How much more will He take care of you?
How much more will He take care of you?
The problem was never God’s ability.
The problem was where their trust was sitting.
The problem was where their trust was sitting.
Where Faith Usually Breaks Down for Women
Let’s tell the truth.
For most of us, faith doesn’t collapse over theology —
It collapses over money, stability, and control.
It collapses over money, stability, and control.
Because money feels tangible.
Money feels safe.
Money feels predictable.
Money feels safe.
Money feels predictable.
And Jesus doesn’t ignore that reality.
He addresses it head-on.
He addresses it head-on.
He tells us plainly:
We cannot serve two masters.
We cannot serve two masters.
Not because money is evil —
But because money competes with God for trust.
But because money competes with God for trust.
Money says, “If you have enough, you’ll be okay.”
God says, “Trust Me, even when you don’t.”
God says, “Trust Me, even when you don’t.”
And many of us want God’s peace without releasing control.
What Life Looks Like When We Don’t Fully Trust Jesus
I’m not going to soften this.
When we don’t trust Jesus completely:
- Anxiety becomes normal
- Fear starts making decisions
- We chase provision but never feel secure
- We work harder and rest less
- We stay in survival mode instead of healing
We become exhausted — not because life is heavy, but because we’re carrying what God never assigned us to carry.
And the hard truth?
Many women aren’t lacking money —
They’re lacking faith-anchored trust.
Many women aren’t lacking money —
They’re lacking faith-anchored trust.
Seek First the Kingdom — Not the Outcome
Jesus didn’t say ignore your needs.
He said put them in the right order.
He said put them in the right order.
Matthew 6:33 (NIV)
“But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well.”
“But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well.”
When God is first:
- Peace follows obedience
- Provision follows alignment
- Stability follows trust
But when money becomes the focus, fear becomes the driver.
More Than Enough Is Not a Lifestyle — It’s a Person
Here’s the truth we don’t talk about enough:
More money won’t heal insecurity.
More possessions won’t silence fear.
More control won’t bring peace.
More possessions won’t silence fear.
More control won’t bring peace.
Jesus is more than enough.
When He is your source:
- You don’t panic when things feel tight
- You don’t make desperate decisions
- You don’t measure your worth by your resources
- You learn to trust God even when the numbers don’t add up
More Than Enough Monday isn’t about pretending problems don’t exist.
It’s about deciding who you will trust in the middle of them.
It’s about deciding who you will trust in the middle of them.
A Real Question for You
Beautiful woman — let me ask you something honestly:
Where has your trust been resting lately?
On God… or on money?
On faith… or on fear?
On provision… or on the Provider?
On faith… or on fear?
On provision… or on the Provider?
Because wherever your trust lives —
Your peace follows.
Your peace follows.
Final Word
Jesus never promised a worry-free life.
But He did promise faithful provision.
But He did promise faithful provision.
If God clothes the grass of the field…
If He sustains creation…
If He sees every sparrow…
If He sustains creation…
If He sees every sparrow…
How much more does He care for you?
Trust Him fully.
Not emotionally.
Not occasionally.
But completely.
Not emotionally.
Not occasionally.
But completely.
Because when Jesus is your source —
He is more than enough.
He is more than enough.
— Dashonia Marie
More Than Enough Monday
When Faith Has to Be Louder Than Fear
Matthew 6:30 (NIV)
“If that is how God clothes the grass of the field, which is here today and tomorrow is thrown into the fire, will he not much more clothe you—you of little faith?”
“If that is how God clothes the grass of the field, which is here today and tomorrow is thrown into the fire, will he not much more clothe you—you of little faith?”
Beautiful woman,
Let me talk to you honestly today—because faith isn’t tested when life is easy.
It’s tested when pressure shows up.
It’s tested when pressure shows up.
When problems stack up.
When bills are due.
When the future feels uncertain.
When you’ve prayed, waited, and still don’t see how it’s going to work out.
When bills are due.
When the future feels uncertain.
When you’ve prayed, waited, and still don’t see how it’s going to work out.
That’s usually when faith begins to weaken—not because we stop believing in God, but because worry starts speaking louder than trust.
Jesus knew this. That’s why He addressed it directly.
“You of Little Faith” Was Not an Insult
When Jesus said, “you of little faith,” He wasn’t condemning His listeners—He was exposing the source of their anxiety.
In Matthew 6, Jesus is talking about everyday worries:
What will we eat?
What will we drink?
What will we wear?
What will we eat?
What will we drink?
What will we wear?
In other words—provision.
Jesus points to the grass, something temporary, fragile, and here today gone tomorrow, and He says if God takes that much care with creation, how much more will He take care of you?
The issue was never God’s ability.
The issue was their trust.
The issue was their trust.
Where Faith Usually Breaks Down
Let’s be real—most of our worry centers around money.
Provision.
Stability.
Security.
Stability.
Security.
And Jesus didn’t dance around this topic.
He said plainly that we cannot serve two masters. We cannot have our hearts divided between God and money. Not because money is sinful—but because it competes for trust.
Money promises safety.
God requires surrender.
God requires surrender.
Money says, “If you have enough, you’ll be okay.”
God says, “Trust Me, even when you don’t.”
God says, “Trust Me, even when you don’t.”
And many of us want God’s peace while still holding tightly to control.
What Happens When We Don’t Trust Jesus
I’m not going to soften this.
When we don’t place our trust fully in Jesus:
- Anxiety becomes normal
- Fear starts directing decisions
- We chase provision instead of peace
- We work harder but feel emptier
- We live in survival mode, not faith
Life becomes heavy because we are carrying what God never asked us to carry.
And the truth is—many women aren’t lacking money as much as they’re lacking faith-anchored trust.
Seek First the Kingdom—Not the Outcome
Jesus gave us a clear instruction:
Matthew 6:33 (NIV)
“But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well.”
“But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well.”
He didn’t say ignore your needs.
He said put them in the right order.
He said put them in the right order.
When God is first:
- Provision follows alignment
- Peace follows obedience
- Stability follows trust
But when money becomes the focus, fear becomes the driver.
More Than Enough Is Not a Lifestyle—It’s a Person
Here’s the truth many people don’t want to face:
More money will not heal insecurity.
More possessions will not fix fear.
More control will not bring peace.
More possessions will not fix fear.
More control will not bring peace.
Jesus is more than enough.
When your faith is rooted in Him:
- You don’t panic when things feel tight
- You don’t make desperate decisions
- You don’t measure your worth by your bank account
- You learn to trust God even when the math doesn’t add up
More Than Enough Monday is not about pretending problems don’t exist.
It’s about choosing to trust who God is in the middle of them.
It’s about choosing to trust who God is in the middle of them.
A Direct Question for You
Beautiful woman, let me ask you something real:
Where has your trust been sitting lately?
On God—or on money?
On faith—or on fear?
On provision—or on the Provider?
On God—or on money?
On faith—or on fear?
On provision—or on the Provider?
Because wherever your trust rests, your peace will follow.
Final Word
Jesus never promised a worry-free life.
But He did promise faithful provision.
But He did promise faithful provision.
If God clothes the grass of the field,
if He sustains creation,
if He sees every sparrow…
if He sustains creation,
if He sees every sparrow…
How much more does He care for you?
Place your faith fully in Jesus.
Not emotionally.
Not occasionally.
But completely.
Not emotionally.
Not occasionally.
But completely.
Because when Jesus is your source,
He is more than enough.
He is more than enough.
— Dashonia Marie
Stop Auditioning for Love
“You Didn’t Choose Me. I Chose You.” — John 15:16 (NLT)
Tonight, before the day fades and the noise settles, I want you to pause with me for a moment.
Nighttime has a way of telling the truth. It’s often when the distractions are gone that the old thoughts try to speak the loudest—the replaying, the questioning, the wondering if you did too much or not enough. This is where many women unknowingly slip back into audition mode.
But tonight, we interrupt that pattern with truth.
Jesus said, “You didn’t choose me. I chose you.” (John 15:16, NLT)
That statement alone dismantles the pressure you’ve been carrying. It reminds us that love did not begin with your effort, your consistency, your patience, or your performance. Love began with God’s decision. His choice was not emotional, temporary, or conditional—it was intentional and eternal.
If today revealed places where you felt the need to prove yourself, stay quiet to keep peace, or give more than you had just to feel secure, I want you to hear this clearly: that pressure did not come from God. God’s love does not fluctuate based on how well you show up. It does not withdraw when you rest. It does not require you to compete, convince, or perform.
Romans 8:38–39 (NLT) reminds us that nothing can ever separate us from God’s love. Not rejection. Not inconsistency from others. Not your past. Not your mistakes. And not your fear of being replaced.
Tonight, let this truth settle deeper than your emotions:
You are not an option waiting to be selected.
You are chosen—already, fully, and permanently.
If you are in a relationship and still feel the pressure to earn love, this is your sign to pause and examine the belief underneath the behavior. God’s love brings peace, not anxiety. Security, not striving. Rest, not performance.
As you prepare to sleep, release the need to be picked again tomorrow. Release the urge to over-explain, over-give, or over-function. You do not need to audition for what has already been given.
Night Prayer
God, tonight I lay down every place where I tried to earn love today. I release the fear of being overlooked, rejected, or replaced. Help me rest in the truth that You chose me first, and Your love does not change. Teach my heart to trust Your choice more than I seek validation from people. In Jesus’ name, amen.
Sleep tonight knowing this:
You are chosen.
You are secure.
And you are learning how to live from that truth—one night at a time
