This site is dedicated to helping people in second marriages.  I am in a second marriage, and chances are, you are too, if you are reading this blog. All of us deal with one primary issue: learning to live together and adjust in a newly formed family.

The last blog post talked about how second marriages are complicated. And there are several things that make it complicated, but some of our situations are more complicated than others.

In this post, I want to take some time to talk about the different types of second marriage that people enter into. What kind of second marriage you have, will determine your level of complication. Here are the four types of second marriage:

  1. Two partners, no kids. (TPNK): This is the simplest type of second marriage, and the one that has the least complications.
  2. One partner with kids (OPWK): This type of relationship means that the partner without kids, will becoming a parent for the first time, through marriage. It is much more complicated than the TPNK marriage, and contact with the mother or father of the kids will be necessary on a on-going basis, until the children are adults, unless the other parent has passed away. `This is the kind of marriage that I entered to eight years ago.
  3. Two partners with kids (TPWK):  This is the most complex of all situations. As a child of the 70’s, the most famous stepfamily for us was the Brady Bunch. You may recall, how Mike and Carol joined their lives, along with their six kids into one big, pretty chaotic household.  In the TPWK, children must adjust to other children, on top of dealing with a new parent.
So, what kind of second marriage are you in? Please fill in the question below to give your input.

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Meet Sharilee Swaity

Sharilee Swaity is a Christian relationship coach with a background in teaching and marketing. This graduate of the Relationship Coaching Institute is passionate about helping women and couples find and keep love after losing a long-term relationship through divorce, widowhood, or relationship breakdown. She works with couples helping them overcome conflict and find love with their spouse. 

Sharilee's passion for helping with relationships was born from her own painful life journey. Growing up witnessing abuse started her on the journey to looking for love in all the wrong places. By age 22, she was already married and divorced. When she finally remarried years later, it looked like she was headed for another divorce, but with the help of counselling and God's wisdom, they turned their second marriage around. 

Sharilee is the author of five books, including Happily Ever After Again: Hope, Healing, and Love for Second Marriages and 16 Gifts from a Stepmom: Encouragement for the Blended Family Journey.   When she's not coaching, writing, or teaching, she loves going for walks with her husband in the forest where they live or spending time in their permaculture-style garden. 

Sharilee loves to experience the city once in a while but nowadays spends most of her time hidden away at their homestead home.  She is a crunchy conservative with a passion for chai tea, sunsets, and trees. She loves learning, research and writing. Clck here to book a coaching call with her today. 
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