Wow, life can be so stressful sometimes, can’t it? With all the complications, second marriages can be a pressure cooker for those involved. One way of helping to alleviate the pressure is to somehow, some way find time for yourself.  Take some time to remember who you are, besides being a stepmom, mom, wife and partner. Do something you enjoy, even if it is only once or twice a week.

During our second year of marriage, I was feeling intense pressure from stepfamily issues and also from arguing with my husband. I was in a new place, dealing with a new job. It felt completely overwhelming.

And during that time period, I started a new hobby called “polyvore.” I loved it! In case you have never heard of it, it involves creating collages online, either for fashion or art.  It was the type of activity that I could just get completely lost in. After awhile, I also started blogging, and writing became a big part of my life. And really, these things helped to save my sanity!

So, I encourage you find something that you like to do, apart from your spouse, and apart from the kids, and take time weekly to do it. You need this to remind you that you are more than the situation you are in right now. You are more than a stepparent feeling ignored, or a custodial parent missing their child. You are still you, in spite of your struggles right now!

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Meet Sharilee Swaity

Sharilee Swaity is a Christian relationship coach with a background in teaching and marketing. This graduate of the Relationship Coaching Institute is passionate about helping women and couples find and keep love after losing a long-term relationship through divorce, widowhood, or relationship breakdown. She works with couples helping them overcome conflict and find love with their spouse. 

Sharilee's passion for helping with relationships was born from her own painful life journey. Growing up witnessing abuse started her on the journey to looking for love in all the wrong places. By age 22, she was already married and divorced. When she finally remarried years later, it looked like she was headed for another divorce, but with the help of counselling and God's wisdom, they turned their second marriage around. 

Sharilee is the author of five books, including Happily Ever After Again: Hope, Healing, and Love for Second Marriages and 16 Gifts from a Stepmom: Encouragement for the Blended Family Journey.   When she's not coaching, writing, or teaching, she loves going for walks with her husband in the forest where they live or spending time in their permaculture-style garden. 

Sharilee loves to experience the city once in a while but nowadays spends most of her time hidden away at their homestead home.  She is a crunchy conservative with a passion for chai tea, sunsets, and trees. She loves learning, research and writing. Clck here to book a coaching call with her today. 
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