Letting Go of What You’ll Never Hear

Day 3: Letting Go of What You’ll Never Hear

Scripture Focus

Genesis 50:20 (NLT)

“You intended to harm me, but God intended it all for good. He brought me to this position so I could save the lives of many people.”

Devotional

Dear Resilient Woman of God,

Let’s get real.

You’ve been waiting to hear three words:

“I am sorry.”

But what if they never come?

What if the one who abused you… denies it?

What if the parent who abandoned you… never explains why?

What if the friend who betrayed you… acts like nothing ever happened?

Does your healing stop there?

Absolutely not.

Because you’re not forgiving to let them off the hook—you’re forgiving to take yourself off the cross.

Some of us have been spiritually bleeding for years while the people who hurt us kept walking like they did nothing wrong. But God didn’t call you to stay stuck in that place.

Joseph in Genesis 50 had every reason to hate his brothers.

They lied on him.

Sold him.

Left him for dead.

And then… when they saw him again, they were silent.

No apology. No remorse.

And still—Joseph said, “You meant it for harm, but God used it for good.”

That is forgiveness rooted in divine perspective.

Forgiveness doesn’t always mean reconciliation.

It doesn’t mean they get access to your life again.

It doesn’t mean trust is instantly restored.

But it does mean this:

“I’m no longer waiting on people to fix what only God can heal.”

That’s the lesson for today:

Forgiveness is not dependent on their confession. It’s dependent on your surrender.

If you wait for them to own it, you may never heal.

But if you surrender it to God, you’ll walk in a kind of peace they can’t take from you—even if they never make it right.

You have suffered long enough.

You do not need their words to release your pain.

You just need the courage to say:

“I release it. I release you. And I trust God with the rest.”

Reflection Prompt

Be honest. Write this in your journal:

Who have I been waiting on to make things right?
What do I wish they would say, admit, or acknowledge?
What has holding onto that expectation done to me spiritually, emotionally, and mentally?

Now ask yourself:

“Do I believe God can heal me, even if they never say a word?”

Application Challenge

Write a prayer to God that includes the words “I forgive them even without an apology.”

Include the emotions you feel. Be raw. Be honest. Don’t water it down.

This is not about sounding holy—it’s about getting free.

When you finish, say this aloud:

“Father, I forgive them—not because they apologized, but because I want to live. I trust You to deal with what they won’t face. I am no longer waiting for closure. I choose healing.”

Closing Prayer

Father,

Today I come before You with hands full of pain, betrayal, and silence.

I’ve been waiting for people to say they’re sorry.

But I realize now… they may never say it. They may never own it.

And I’m tired of holding my breath for words that will never come.

God, I want to live.

I want to heal.

I want to be free.

So right now, I release them.

I forgive them—not because they made it right, but because You are righteous.

I trust You to handle what they won’t.