Stewardship. Discipline. Alignment.
Beautiful woman,
Let’s talk about something we don’t always say out loud.
Some of us are not broke.
We are thinking broke.
And poverty thinking will sabotage prosperity praying every single time.
I say that with love. And I say that as a woman who had to confront it in myself.
What Is Poverty Thinking?
Poverty thinking is not about your bank account.
It’s about your mindset.
It is a belief system that says:
- “There’s never enough.”
- “I’ll probably lose it anyway.”
- “People like me don’t stay stable.”
- “I have to grab it while I can.”
- “If I don’t secure this, no one will.”
Poverty thinking is survival-based thinking.
It is fear-driven.
It is trauma-informed.
It is scarcity-focused.
And many women carry it without realizing it.
You can love God and still think in lack.
You can tithe and still operate in fear.
You can pray for overflow while secretly expecting loss.
That is poverty thinking.
How We Trick Ourselves Into Staying There
This is where we have to be honest.
We disguise poverty thinking as:
- “Being realistic.”
- “Protecting ourselves.”
- “Not getting our hopes up.”
- “Staying humble.”
- “Just being cautious.”
But underneath it is fear.
Fear that if we believe for more, we’ll be disappointed.
Fear that if we try again, we’ll fail.
Fear that if we build stability, something will come and take it.
So instead of building wisely, we self-sabotage quietly.
We:
- Overspend when stressed.
- Stay in unstable relationships.
- Avoid learning about money.
- Ignore budgeting.
- Reject opportunities because they feel “too big.”
- Downplay our potential.
And then we pray:
“God increase me.”
“God bless me.”
“God open doors.”
But prosperity requires partnership.
How Poverty Thinking Affects Us as Women
Poverty thinking doesn’t just affect money.
It affects:
- The men we tolerate.
- The environments we stay in.
- The standards we lower.
- The way we speak about ourselves.
- The goals we never attempt.
When you think in scarcity, you accept crumbs.
When you think in wisdom, you require stability.
Proverbs 4:7 (NIV) says:
“The beginning of wisdom is this: Get wisdom. Though it cost all you have, get understanding.”
Wisdom is not emotional.
Wisdom is structured.
Wisdom plans.
Wisdom prepares.
Wisdom disciplines.
Poverty thinking reacts.
Wisdom thinking responds.
What Is Wisdom Thinking?
Wisdom thinking says:
- “Let me plan before I spend.”
- “Let me heal before I attach.”
- “Let me build before I broadcast.”
- “Let me discipline myself before asking God for more.”
James 1:5 (NIV) says:
“If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault.”
Notice — it says ask for wisdom.
Not just provision.
Because provision without wisdom will not last.
And I had to learn that the hard way.
There were seasons I prayed for financial stability, but I had no financial discipline.
There were seasons I prayed for healthy love, but I had no emotional boundaries.
There were seasons I prayed for peace, but I entertained chaos.
I wasn’t lacking blessing.
I was lacking wisdom.
Let’s Talk About Prosperity Praying
Prosperity praying looks like:
“God expand me.”
“God enlarge my territory.”
“God send increase.”
“God restore what I lost.”
But what happens when increase shows up and we don’t have discipline?
We lose it.
Luke 16:10 (NIV) says:
“Whoever can be trusted with very little can also be trusted with much…”
Prosperity is not about shouting.
It is about stewardship.
God will not multiply what you refuse to manage.
And sometimes the breakthrough we are praying for is being held back by the habits we won’t confront.
How We Sabotage Ourselves
Let me say something strong.
Some women are not attacked.
They are undisciplined.
That may sound harsh — but it is freeing when you understand it.
We sabotage ourselves when we:
- Avoid budgets but blame income.
- Pray for marriage but ignore healing.
- Ask for peace but entertain drama.
- Want wealth but reject structure.
- Desire stability but resist correction.
Wisdom requires humility.
And humility requires accountability.
Wealth Is Not Just Money
Wealth is:
- Mental stability.
- Emotional regulation.
- Spiritual maturity.
- Financial discipline.
- Consistent character.
- Healthy relationships.
3 John 1:2 (NIV) says:
“I pray that you may enjoy good health and that all may go well with you, even as your soul is getting along well.”
Notice the order.
Soul first.
Then everything else.
If your soul is unstable, prosperity becomes pressure.
A Wealth & Wisdom Reset
Beautiful woman, let’s make this practical.
This week ask yourself:
- Where am I thinking in scarcity?
- Where am I reacting instead of planning?
- Where am I praying for increase without discipline?
- Where am I afraid to believe for more?
Then shift.
Start small.
Financial:
- Track your spending.
- Save something.
- Stop emotional purchases.
Spiritual:
- Ask God for wisdom, not just blessing.
- Obey what He already told you.
- Study Proverbs this week.
Mental:
- Stop saying “I’ll never.”
- Stop rehearsing worst-case scenarios.
- Speak increase with responsibility.
Emotional:
- Raise your standards.
- Stop accepting instability.
- Heal what keeps attracting chaos.
Final Word
Wealth without wisdom becomes waste.
Wisdom without discipline becomes intention with no execution.
And prayer without partnership becomes frustration.
You do not have to live in poverty thinking.
You do not have to stay stuck in survival mode.
God is not intimidated by your desire for prosperity.
But He is serious about stewardship.
And when you align your thinking, your habits, and your faith —
Increase will not just visit you.
It will remain.
— Dashonia Marie
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