What’s Really Holding You Wednesday

It’s Not the Devil. It’s the Woman in the Mirror.

Beautiful woman,

I’m not coming soft today.

Because some of us don’t need comfort — we need clarity.

It’s Wednesday. The middle of the week.
And the middle is where excuses get exposed.

You say you want change.
You say you want peace.
You say you want growth.
You say you want a better life.

But when it’s time to examine yourself…
you get quiet.

Or defensive.

Or spiritual.

Let’s tell the truth.

Some of you have never sat down and done a real self-examination.
Not surface reflection.
Not “I know I’m not perfect.”
Not “God is still working on me.”

I’m talking about sitting before God and saying:

“Lord, show me what I refuse to see about myself.”

Because here’s what I’ve learned — and I had to learn this the hard way:

It’s easier to rebuke the devil
than to rebuke your own patterns.

The Pattern You Keep Protecting

Let’s talk real life.

You keep attracting the same type of relationship —
but you blame the dating pool.

You keep struggling financially —
but you avoid budgeting because it makes you uncomfortable.

You keep saying people “misunderstand” you —
but you never examine how you communicate.

You say you want discipline —
but you don’t follow through when nobody is watching.

You say you want spiritual growth —
but you resist correction.

And when things don’t move,
you call it warfare.

Sis.

Sometimes it’s not warfare.
Sometimes it’s immaturity.

Why Women Avoid Accountability

Let me tell you something most women won’t admit:

Accountability feels like exposure.

It forces you to admit:
“I did that.”
“I chose that.”
“I allowed that.”
“I ignored that.”
“I avoided that.”

And that is uncomfortable.

Because once you admit it…
you can’t pretend anymore.

And pretending feels safer than change.

What Self-Examination Really Is

Self-examination is not beating yourself up.
It’s not shame.
It’s not condemnation.

It is spiritual maturity.

The Bible says in 2 Corinthians 13:5 (NIV):

“Examine yourselves to see whether you are in the faith; test yourselves.”

It does not say examine your haters.
It does not say test your enemies.
It says examine yourself.

Because you cannot heal what you won’t acknowledge.
And you cannot break a cycle you refuse to see.

Let’s Get Honest About What’s Holding You Back

It’s not always the devil.

Sometimes it’s:

• Your fear of discomfort.
• Your addiction to chaos because peace feels unfamiliar.
• Your refusal to forgive.
• Your pride.
• Your procrastination.
• Your emotional reactions.
• Your lack of discipline.
• Your need to be right.
• Your avoidance of hard conversations.

That’s not an attack.
That’s a mirror.

And growth requires mirrors.