WEEK 2 — DAY 7: THE EMOTIONAL VOWS YOU MADE IN PAIN ARE RUNNING YOUR LIFE — AND RUINING YOUR PRE

You didn’t just survive what hurt you. You made promises inside the pain that are sabotaging your healing today.

Beautiful woman…
Today’s lesson is not soft.
It is not gentle.
It is not comfortable.

It is surgical.
It is necessary.
It is for your freedom.

Because you cannot step into emotional wholeness
while you are still bound to the vows you made in emotional darkness.

And every woman reading this needs to hear this truth:

Your life today is being shaped more by the promises you made in your pain
than by the promises God has spoken over your future.

Today, we break that.

FOCUS SCRIPTURE — Isaiah 28:15 & 18 (NLT)

“You boast, ‘We have made a covenant with death… we have made lies our refuge.’
But God says:
‘I will cancel this covenant; I will tear up this agreement…’”

This is EXACTLY what emotional vows are:
self-made agreements formed in trauma.

God says, “You made them…
but I will break them.”

Emotional vows are promises rooted in lies.
Lies that became your refuge.
Lies that became your identity.
Lies that became your emotional foundation.

But God is tearing them up today.

WHAT IS AN EMOTIONAL VOW? THE REAL TRUTH, NOT THE PRETTY TRUTH

An emotional vow is:

A promise you whispered to yourself in the middle of a wound
that now governs how you think, feel, react, and love today.

It sounds like:

“I’ll never need anybody.”
“I’ll always protect myself.”
“I’ll never feel this way again.”
“I don’t trust anyone.”
“I expect nothing so I won’t get hurt.”
“Love is dangerous.”
“Closeness leads to pain.”
“If I stay quiet, I stay safe.”
“If I don’t hope, I can’t be disappointed.”

These vows felt like safety back then.
But now…
they are cages.

And many women in Encouraging Her Resilience are not stuck because of demons, trauma, or circumstances —
they are stuck because of their own vows.

Vows they forgot they made.
Vows that still control them.
Vows that Christ never approved.
Vows that sabotage every attempt at healing.

LET’S BE HONEST: YOU SABOTAGE MORE THAN YOU REALIZE

I’m going to speak plainly, because you can handle deep truth:

Many of your emotional battles today are self-inflicted.

Not because you’re weak…
but because you’re still obeying vows you made at your lowest point.

You push away love because you vowed to protect yourself.
You reject healthy people because you vowed never to trust again.
You attack yourself because you vowed you weren’t good enough.
You sabotage relationships because you vowed nobody stays.
You shut down emotionally because you vowed never to be vulnerable.
You overwork because you vowed never to depend on anyone.
You isolate because you vowed independence equals safety.
You cling to toxic connections because you vowed you didn’t deserve better.

These vows didn’t start as sin —
they started as survival.

But what kept you alive back then
is destroying your life today.

THE SPIRITUAL TRUTH:

GOD NEVER BUILDS ON TOP OF A VOW HE DID NOT AUTHORIZE

This is why some of you feel like your healing is slow.
You’re praying for restoration
while still clinging to vows rooted in fear.

You’re asking God to send love
while your vow says, “I don’t need anyone.”

You’re asking God for peace
while your vow says, “I expect chaos.”

You’re asking God for growth
while your vow says, “I’m safer small.”

You’re asking God for healthy relationships
while your vow says, “Everyone hurts me.”

God cannot heal what you keep protecting.
He cannot rewrite what you keep reciting.
He cannot restore what you keep refusing to release.

You cannot walk into a healed future
while honoring vows that came from a broken past.

WHY YOU MUST BREAK THESE VOWS — NOW

Because these vows are:

• Blocking your blessings
• Distorting your identity
• Sabotaging your emotional stability
• Damaging your relationships
• Feeding insecurity
• Strengthening fear
• Delaying your assignment
• Attacking your spiritual authority
• Rewriting your belief system
• Rebuilding the same cycles you’re trying to escape

Emotional vows keep you rehearsing pain
instead of receiving healing.

They mute the voice of God
and amplify the voice of trauma.

They keep you loyal to the woman you were
instead of the woman you’re becoming.

Breaking them is not optional.
Breaking them is deliverance.

THE BIBLE PRINCIPLE FOR BREAKING EMOTIONAL VOWS

In Scripture, every vow made from fear brought bondage.
Every vow made from faith brought blessing.

Jesus said:
“Let your yes be yes and your no be no.”

Meaning:

Stop creating binding agreements from emotions Christ came to heal.

A vow made in tears cannot lead you into freedom.
A vow made in trauma cannot lead you into purpose.
A vow made in fear cannot lead you into love.

HOW TO BREAK EMOTIONAL VOWS AND STOP SABOTAGING YOUR PRESENT

1. Expose the vow.

Healing begins with honesty:
“What promise did I make in my pain?”

2. Identify the wound that birthed it.

Every vow has a moment.
A memory.
A scar.

3. Renounce the vow OUT LOUD.

“Father, I break agreement with this vow.
I refuse to live by it another day.”

4. Replace the vow with truth.

Name the scripture that contradicts the vow.

5. Behave differently.

Vow-breaking happens in your mouth.
Healing happens in your behavior.

6. Let God reconstruct your emotional world.

This is where transformation becomes permanent.

A FINAL WORD FROM MY HEART

Beautiful woman…
you cannot become who God created you to be
while serving vows you made in the worst season of your life.

Those vows saved you once —
but they are killing you now.

It’s time to break them.
It’s time to unplug from emotional agreements rooted in trauma.
It’s time to release the lies you used to survive.
It’s time to surrender the promises you made without God.
It’s time to allow Jesus to rewrite the vows of your heart.

You deserve emotional freedom.
You deserve emotional stability.
You deserve healthy love.
You deserve peace without fear.
You deserve a future not built on pain.

But none of that can happen
until you stop honoring vows that were born in wounds.

Break the vow.
Heal the wound.
Rewrite the story.

And beautiful woman…

“God cannot bless the areas of your life that your emotional vows are still controlling.”